"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What do these signals mean?

samson73103

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I was in a restaurant today when I ran into a female friend lunching with her co-workers. She is married and although we fooled around once upon a time, we never did the deed because we agreed that it would create more problems than it solves. Anyway she invited me to join them and I did. The last one of her co-workers to arrive was an attractive blond who sat across from me. After we were introduced, the blonde points out that she and I had talked on the phone a few times although we never had met before. What happened was, about nine months ago, a family member of mine became acquainted with her and upon finding out she was recently divorced, mentioned that I was in the same boat. He acquired her number, passed it along to me, and after him going on and on about how great she was and what a wonderful catch she would be, I called her a couple of times. She was pleasant enough although she said she really wasn't interested in dating anyone right then. The last conversation we had, she said she was busy at the moment and would call me back. She never did so I nexxed her. Today she spent more of the lunch hour chatting with me than she did any of her co-workers. We talked about our divorces, children, careers and whatever. The conversation flowed pretty well for the hour or so we were there. I would sometime break it off intentionally to see if she would start it back up. Eventually she would but it would often be a statement rather than a question directed at me. She would maintain eye contact for a moment and then look down, then back up at me. But the main thing that really puzzled me was the way she kept playing with her earrings. Her hair is pretty short and she was wearing these long earrings which she kept twirling with her fingers while we were talking. Does anyone have any insight on how I should read this woman?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SHE'S MARRIED, LEAVE HER ALONE.....good grief dude. I'm no "master don juan" but come on man get you act together, she wasn't interested in you the first time. Sex doesn't really complicate things in this day and age. That's a convenient excuse.
 

speedo_meme

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ok i read the story wrong....my bad, so she wasn't married....

throw out my post
 

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But the main thing that really puzzled me was the way she kept playing with her earrings. Her hair is pretty short and she was wearing these long earrings which she kept twirling with her fingers while we were talking. Does anyone have any insight on how I should read this woman?
A lot of guys think women playing with their hair and stuff means they're attracted to you. I'm saying it isn't "significant" enough to pay attention to. I see women do things like this ALL THE TIME, driving, sitting, talking, walking, etc. The only way to find out about her IL is to ask her out.

I was watching a movie the other night with a couple of friends. One guy and a girl. The girl was playing with her hair while we watched the movie, do you think it really meant anything worth mentioning? There are so many reasons why women do little things like that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The reason they do those things is simple, insecurity. Their self-esteem is often pitifully low and they have an unhealthy, almost narcotic desire for the approval of others. Unfortunately, the same reaction is likely to take place whether they're attracted to you or not. They want you to like them irrespective of reciprocation. Because it validates them, with the added bonus of giving them something to complain about.
 

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read her as lonely and then leave her alone
this is not good
 

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She's blonde. and if you don't know how to read her mind, you are worse. Hey Don't steal a wife. That is not a good idea.
 
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