I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Got ya, I was barbacking back then making basically nothing and there would be no way a bouncer would let me in between the ages of 18-22 even with a fake since I still get carded at 25 if I've got no stubble.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I, like most guys in my 20s, was always on the lookout for some female companionship. By 28, I had finally reached a point apparently where self improvement efforts were putting me at a peak. But not long after that I started focusing on my career more heavily, which took up a lot of time. During that time I met a woman who was an LTR interest for me, and I've mainly been in LTRs ever since. Which is what I find most satisfying, personally.
I figured, I think that's great. as well. I'd be more partial to relationships down the road i'm sure.
Never have! Last night two girls pulled me and a bud aside and bought us shots.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I relate to that and held that mentality for a while. Now i'm more eager to try these things it out in moderation. My self control is good so i'm not worried about heading south or self destructing. And as previously mentioned I see it as a challenge.
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American clubs? Rarely do I see anyone under 21 where i'm at, a handful of fake id's here n there. I started playing out at 16 with guys 20 or more years my senior, but being "with the band" felt different then going out on the town. Still feels that way now, but I play out way less.
Yeah USA, and like you I was a teen in a band (Jazz/R&B) with cats in their late 20s early 30s, so were the women that attended the gigs. Serious education but TBH I got past older women quickly, I simply carried that confidence into my endeavors with women my age.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
