“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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We're both taken but we're flirting all the time...

DiegoSantori

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What's up,

I'm (24 yo) attending an institution of higher education/academy which is divided in classes and I'm starting to like one of my female classmates (21 yo). The first time she talked to me, she was getting real close to me and gave me a look as if I was Enrique Iglesias.

We both started to spend time together when we were both single but I wasn't that attracted to her at that time, plus, I wanted to avoid that classroom drama/gossip thing, so I decided to just treat her as a friend. She's like a female version of me, same interests, same character traits, always happy and vivacious, that's why I enjoyed spending time with her.

The more time we spent together, the more attractive she became in my eyes. I once asked her if she thinks I'm good looking (I know, I know, a real man should avoid approval-seeking questions...), and she immediately replied 'yes' but at the same time she didn't hide the fact that she was chatting with other boys.

In the classroom, I did a lot of KINO, just naturally, not on purpose, and there was this tension between us that everybody around us could sense. When I mentioned my new girlfriend, she was very interested in details, but she didn't seem jealous.

I then more or less ignored her for a while because I was focused on my gf and she had a new boyfriend so the tension was cooling down.

Now the tension is back, and it seems to be even stronger than before. I tease and neg her all the time, she teases back, I KINO more than ever before. She playfully punches me on the shoulder and says that I am sexy. We go to the gym together, she almost always has time for me but she isn't jealous nor does she hide details about when she meets her boyfriend.

She once said that she only goes for black guys (and I'm the Mediterranean Italian type), her boyfriend is black too. But she also has pics on her phone of non-black dudes that she finds attractive. And she obviously is physically attracted to me too.

I know it's a long text but it's the first time in a long while that I'm attracted to a woman because of her personality. My gf has a nice personality too, but damn, that other woman's charisma is simply amazing.

Does she only use me for attention? What would you do?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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How long is she dating this other dude? Live together? You and yours?

If you want to just f her you probably can. But she is not LTR material and, it's sounds like you want to go for the steal more than just the lay.

Sounds like you can easily bag this one but you are afraid of the rejection.

Do you love your girl or is it just a warm body?

I wouldnt pursue this, but that wasn't your question.

You can but you shouldnt. If you decide not to... pull way back and stop torturring everyone involved by being her ego boost.
 

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salinechow said:
How long is she dating this other dude? Live together? You and yours?

If you want to just f her you probably can. But she is not LTR material and, it's sounds like you want to go for the steal more than just the lay.

Sounds like you can easily bag this one but you are afraid of the rejection.

Do you love your girl or is it just a warm body?

I wouldnt pursue this, but that wasn't your question.

You can but you shouldnt. If you decide not to... pull way back and stop torturring everyone involved by being her ego boost.
She is dating him for about one month, they don't live together. I'm in a relationship since November and don't live with my gf either. In a few months the other girl is going to Spain for one year, probably without her boyfriend, so I guess, their relationship is not that serious.

I also doubt that she is LTR material. I'm just attracted to her, even slightly more than I'm attracted to my gf.

I'll probably take the risk of rejection. I mean she is going to leave this country in a few months and I presumably will never see her again in my life, so I'll probably kick myself in a few years if I don't give it a try now, also because I don't want to look back on that time as only being her ego boost, as you said.
 
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