Well, fellas. It's not about woman anymore.

[moneyisking]

Sorry to tell ya, I have been in serious emotional crap for past few months, and I got to tell ya, I have been browsing my mind and kept myself in thinking mode. I thought and thought, what could be wrong with me that I haven't got any women? It's the problem of Mind, not women no more.

You guys know how difficult it is to explain hard situations of mind. You do know you suffer, but you just don't know wtf you suffer. You know you have to play like the player and talk/act like a DJ when you're talking with that chick, but it JUST doesn't happen, and you know something is fvcked up in your mind b/c you know all the seduction shyt, but you just can't explain it.

I feel exactly that way. I am so perplexed that I have no idea where to step from here, haha. I equip myself with all these thinking and mind game that I must not care, not care, and there I am, fvkcing frozen seeing a beautiful woman coming from distance. Ah... I don't know... Maybe prostitution is what suits me... no books or readings or practices helped me... what could help me now?

 

[Warrior74]

do you know who you are? And what your goals are? What your passion in life is? Are you working towards the things you want?

 

[The Message Boy]

moneyisking says,

You guys know how difficult it is to explain hard situations of mind. You do know you suffer, but you just don't know wtf you suffer. You know you have to play like the player and talk/act like a DJ when you're talking with that chick, but it JUST doesn't happen, and you know something is fvcked up in your mind b/c you know all the seduction shyt, but you just can't explain it.

moneyisking says,

I feel exactly that way. I am so perplexed that I have no idea where to step from here, haha. I equip myself with all these thinking and mind game that I must not care, not care, and there I am, fvkcing frozen seeing a beautiful woman coming from distance. Ah... I don't know... Maybe prostitution is what suits me... no books or readings or practices helped me... what could help me now?

There's three things.

First off, it appears as though you are TOO wrapped up in forum termology. This forum is good when you are DOING SOMETHING, but it's horrible when you are not, you become like a good number of these guys on here and eventually become a keyboard jockey.

Second of all, you are trying to play without getting hurt, approach without getting rejected, etc., etc. It AIN'T HAPPENING.

Once you get your "stuff" down pat, the rejections will be fewer and fewer if AT ALL, but for right now you just need to GET OUT THERE and do the best you can.

What happens is that you learn, and the BEST teacher is NOT this forum, it's actually experiencing women head on. THERE'S a ton of **** that goes on during the alteraction with a woman and this forum is just not BIG ENOUGH nor EXPERIENCED enough to record all of it.

The **** going on in your mind is natural, every guy has it, it's called FEAR. Whenever you percieve DANGER or HURT, FEAR will always be the main emotional state that takes over.

What you have to do at this stage is just pursue in spite of fear, in spite of the potential of getting hurt, in spite of the potential of being rejected.

Eventually, you will rack up some successes and build confidence, REAL CONFIDENCE, the type that comes from EXPERIENCE with the field. How can you expect to have confidence already when you have not yet experienced the field? On the contratry, it's NOT positive thinking and positive statements that BUILD confidence, it's PAIN that builds confidence. Because once you've experienced PAIN, the "fear" of it goes away, you learn how to manage it and deal with it but most importantly, you begin to ADDRESS the field without fear.


Thirdly, if you are going to read ANYTHING on this forum, read the posts related to building up your Inner Game, NOT the outer game stuff like the "wait 3 days into you call" **** like that. Once you have the Inner Game stuff down, you can INVENT your OWN outer game techniques.

Start a Thread or Journal on here and record your results as you start. Read the replies from guys that seem to care and know what they are talking about and use their observations for what to work on, along with your own observations.

Then with persistence, work, and a little bit of time, threads like these will be so FAR out of your vocabulary.

But remember, you've got to start somewhere, despite the crap you hear about "naturals" there's no such thing! Everybody at one time or another had their **** ****ed up too!

 

[moneyisking]

Thanks for the golden advice. I will keep crashing and burning, keep trying even though this bit*ches keep flaking out on me, and never conform into AFC or nice guys just to get laid (which they don't get haha). I will be a strong man from EXPERIENCE. Thank you.

 

[moneyisking]

do you know who you are? And what your goals are? What your passion in life is? Are you working towards the things you want?

No... I don't know what I am, who I am... I mean they are vague topics to start with, but I have no clue or idea about ME. That's why I feel like the problem is not about women, it's about me.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Thanks for the golden advice. I will keep crashing and burning, keep trying even though this bit*ches keep flaking out on me, and never conform into AFC or nice guys just to get laid (which they don't get haha). I will be a strong man from EXPERIENCE. Thank you.

You found what works for you. It's almost the same problem I have. It's mostly instinctual what you have to do, the problem is all these layers of crap that we've been taught is the *right* way to do things that's slowing many of us down. The AFC problem, the arrogance/a*hole problem, the wussy problem... etc.

You deal with those imbalances, and anything else that's slowing you down, and you're pretty much ready for anything life throws at you. Women, career, weird situations that always seem to happen. Achieve balance and you can overcome anything.

 

[Warrior74]

No... I don't know what I am, who I am... I mean they are vague topics to start with, but I have no clue or idea about ME. That's why I feel like the problem is not about women, it's about me.

You are right. Until you can get a good handle on those questions, you are like a ship with no compass. A man is the captain of his ship, so if they captain doesn't know where he is going or what he is doing, why would any woman want to join his crew? She gets on your ship, you don't get on hers. (thanks Player Supreme).

You need to figure out your ship (hehe), and get moving in the right direction. Are you in school? Do you have a job? Are you taking care of your health and hitting the gym? Do you have a goal you are trying to reach. You need to get some pen and paper and write this out. Make a journal and focus your thoughts. Work it out on paper. Think it, ink it.
Once you know what it is you want, you need to use meditations and affirmations to fix it in your mind.

 

[moneyisking]

You are right. Until you can get a good handle on those questions, you are like a ship with no compass. A man is the captain of his ship, so if they captain doesn't know where he is going or what he is doing, why would any woman want to join his crew? She gets on your ship, you don't get on hers. (thanks Player Supreme).

You need to figure out your ship (hehe), and get moving in the right direction. Are you in school? Do you have a job? Are you taking care of your health and hitting the gym? Do you have a goal you are trying to reach. You need to get some pen and paper and write this out. Make a journal and focus your thoughts. Work it out on paper. Think it, ink it.
Once you know what it is you want, you need to use meditations and affirmations to fix it in your mind.

I hit the gym constantly, take care of myself pretty good, got a part time job while in full time college... You're right, I should start a journal. Jeez, the journey is hard, painful, and really stressful, yet I can't give up... how ironic is that, giving up or keep going, it hurts either ways... but I choose to advance. Thank you DJ brothers.

 

[Poonani Maker]

My only problem is where I live. I'm determined to take care of that tomorrow or next week. I keep running into "you make too much income" or "your credit is not good enough!(what??)." I'm getting excuse after excuse why I can't rent from a place I deem as perfect for me as far as dishwasher, washer and dryer, 1st floor, $600ish rent, age, sunlight, utilities etc. I can't bring a woman back to my place as it is. I feel like my life is ticking away because I can't move to a less expensive place (I'm currently at $900 raised from $500 earlier this year). That's a huge amount extra that I'm not willing to pay, because I'm saving for a nice house within 3 years.

I can't stand the thought of paying $400 more than I should be paying. $400 that could go in the bank, or towards a new knife, or gun, or any manner of sh!t I need.

I need a new place so that I can buy 2 years worth of freeze-dried food with a shelf-life of 20 years for $4000.

My truck might break down, and I'll need that $400 for repairs, who knows.

I've got my eye on a place I'll be checking out tomorrow. It's a house, not an apartment or a condo. Sounds too good to be true. THAT I could Definitely MAKE into a b!tchin bachelor pad. It's got a backyard. I hope I get it. No dishwasher/dryer, but I'll buy one for that sh!t.

I've basically got women beating down my door trying to get me to take them out, but I've shoved them off of me to buy time to find a new righteous place. I've got the funds to really start bedding multiple women. I've been in my current place since I was on VERY shaky ground both financially and job-wise.

I'm not even going out right now because of this conundrum, although I have been out with friends a couple of weeks ago, and about 2-3 times a month since May. I can't wait to be Set so that I can hit the clubs/bars again. I'm constantly trying to think of ways I can grab a girl by the hand and pull her out of the club and go do some crazy fvckin sh!t, especially with Halloween etc. They want the limelight, they want the attention, but they also want experiences away from their girlfriends that they can TALK about to their girlfriends once it's over, and you may have or may not have fvcked her after her high she got from being with you.