Weird State of Mind

[steroidsrule]

At my college orientation i met a ton of girls, some from the same state as me and worked great game on them (thanks to a year on this site). Afterwards, i went back to my hometown to enjoy summer vacation, and hung out with atleast one of those girls a week (i rotate 3), but the question remains.. "why does everyone get so excited over f*ck buddies"... I would much rather have a relationship even though im going to college, and all my friends try to talk me out of this and man up. This is where you guys come in again.. I need someone who had the same situation as me to tell me
A) how to lose this frame of mind so i can enjoy college better (everyone knows girls wont stay faithful in college so dont even bother)

and

B) How to stay emotionally unattached (i feel myself always wondering if they are gettin with other guys, feeling hot over other guys, etc) I know they are doing this, but i just wanna train myself to not care.

p.s i dont think theres any problem in my outer game.. i can talk to any girl, get a good amount of numbers/dates, and keep girls around, but i just wish i would stop wanting to have a relationship and start not caring about what girls think or feel

thanks and i know i sound like a total *****.. this is just somethin i wish i could solve before college

 

[lavhoes]

If you're still stressing over that sort of thing, then unfortunately I don't think you've been heartbroken enough. Sad, but true.

I mean, we could sit here and warn you about getting emotionally attached, but it won't ever get through as well as actually experiencing it. I know I had just about everyone I know railing against me when I would be focused on relationships and jealousy, but it took an incredibly horrific breakup to finally snap me out of that mindset and see that my own life is better with a good emotional distance between me and girls I haven't known for a good, long while.

Do not wish for relationships; they will come, all too easily. And the less you want them, the more they seem to spring up, so worry not about ever finding one, because someday you will. Staying single is much harder, I've found; just about every girl will at some point want you all to herself, so the real struggle is maintaining your sense of self while you refine your taste in women, especially as you enter college.

And as far as those other guys moving in on girls, they aren't you. You're the king major prize, don't think too much about them. You may try to do what you feel is the rational, logical thing by being "realistic" and comparing yourself to them, but trust me, it's all subjective. There will be plenty of girls who find you absolutely perfect, who will worship you, who will beg and tease and annoy you just to spend time with you. Don't worry about those other guys, they're not even worth thinking about.

 

[steroidsrule]

that was ****ing good bro.. the sense of self.. i realized right after i read that piece that i dont even know what i want in a girl.. let alone what i want from a relationship.. honestly i didnt think i would get an intelligent response but you came through.. thanks bro this just gave me a breakthrough

 

[diablo]

Please read the description for the forum before posting in it.

DJ Tips is for giving tips, not asking for them. Moved to DJD.

 

[Krassus]

Do whatever makes YOU feel happy. If YOU want a relationship, go for it!

 

[Amigu]

I agree with the above guy. I just did a make-out close with a girl two days ago and it really wasn't even that great. I think I would definitely prefer an awesome GF over ONS with chicks who I just happen to find hot. But yeah don't settle for the first girl, take your time to experience different girls. Not just physicaly experience them, experience their character too (that's why it's good to enjoy lots of different female company). And it's BS that girls automaticaly won't stay faithful in college, there are reliable and unreliable chicks everywhere and if you find one with a good self estime and you're what she's after she'll be so happy she won't need anyone else. Simple.