al77
Master Don Juan
We met online, have talked over the phone, set up a date.
She canceled the date on two hours before the date.
We all know what to do: next her and look for other opportunities. But I am sure it was a blatant sh** test, because she left a message " blah blah.. call me on my cell **** or home ****.
When I did a day later, she didn't pick up the phone. Just to make sure I called her hone phone and a couple of hours later her cell.
Time to next her, right?
But next day I received an email:
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i would like to apologize for having to bail on you on saturday. my mum called, and she was all upset. her mum died over a year ago, and a few weeks ago it was her bday and she has had a really tough time with things. i had to go and calm her down.
i hope that you were able to get the message. i tried to tell you to call me to let me know that you got the message but i never heard from you. please forgive me?
anyway, i would still like to get together. maybe this sunday? let me know
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So she is saying she neeed to calm her mum down so badly that she canceled a date? Sure she has a low IL.
But why the heck she apologize and want to get together?
So it was a sh** test.
Anyway, what do you think is a good way to deal with such a test?
a) call her on the day I received the email
b) wait a day and called
c) next her
Or Somehting else?
How do you guys handle this kind of sh** tests?
I am going to do a bit of AFC move since she apologized and go for the option a)
She canceled the date on two hours before the date.
We all know what to do: next her and look for other opportunities. But I am sure it was a blatant sh** test, because she left a message " blah blah.. call me on my cell **** or home ****.
When I did a day later, she didn't pick up the phone. Just to make sure I called her hone phone and a couple of hours later her cell.
Time to next her, right?
But next day I received an email:
----
i would like to apologize for having to bail on you on saturday. my mum called, and she was all upset. her mum died over a year ago, and a few weeks ago it was her bday and she has had a really tough time with things. i had to go and calm her down.
i hope that you were able to get the message. i tried to tell you to call me to let me know that you got the message but i never heard from you. please forgive me?
anyway, i would still like to get together. maybe this sunday? let me know
---
So she is saying she neeed to calm her mum down so badly that she canceled a date? Sure she has a low IL.
But why the heck she apologize and want to get together?
So it was a sh** test.
Anyway, what do you think is a good way to deal with such a test?
a) call her on the day I received the email
b) wait a day and called
c) next her
Or Somehting else?
How do you guys handle this kind of sh** tests?
I am going to do a bit of AFC move since she apologized and go for the option a)