"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Want more confidence? Sell yourself... to yourself by using this tip.

Starriol

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This is something I got from a book that I’ve been using for about 5 months now and it’s by far one of the greatest resources I’ve learned to give me confidence when I need it.

It consist of giving yourself a short commercial to sell yourself… to yourself.

I’m gonna give you my own as an example and then give you some guidelines to create your own.

Trust me! It works! Say it aloud when you need confidence (at the bathroom for example, works GREAT if you see yourself saying it with power and confidence in your voice).
Juan Ignacio is my name, by the way, I’m from Buenos Aires, Argentina. Take into consideration that my spelling and writing style may look a little weird cause I translated this from Spanish, so feel free to adapt what I write to have a little more sense if you chose to use parts of my own commercial.

“ Juan Ignacio, I introduce you to Juan Ignacio, a truly optimistic and important guy.
Juan Ignacio, you think about progress and how to solve problems.
You are a hard worker and a trustworthy person.
You are an honest and direct guy.
When you know what you want, Juan I., you are unstoppable, because you have a strong force, you are aggressive, impetuous, very intelligent, and nothing and no one can stop you.

People enjoy your company Juan Ignacio, because you are attractive, seductive and funny.
You look and feel good.
You think big and act accordingly.
You’ve been a great guy and you are gonna be even greater in the future, so go after what you want, Juan I., onward!
You are an enthusiastic person, let your enthusiasm be seen!”

I say this everyday when I wake up and when I’m feeling low or need an extra boost of confidence. I never has failed me AS LONG AS I SAID IT WITH CONVICTION AND THE BELIEF IT CAN MAKE ME FEEL MORE CONFIDENT.
Sometimes I tried using it without desire, without really wanting to and it didn’t work.
It’s VERY important that you believe what you say, feel the blood running through your veins, get passionate and BELIEVE it will work.

How to construct your own commercial?

First, define your advantages, your superiority points. Ask yourself “What are my best qualities?”.
Then, with your own words, write your own commercial.
Pay attention that I, Juan I., spoke to myself. Talk to yourself you too. Be totally direct and don’t think of anyone else than you when you pronounce it.
Read it aloud and privately at least once a day. Remember what I said above about how to read it, do it with your soul and body in it, get stimulated!
Read it in silence every time you need it, before doing anything that requires guts. Also, read it every time you are feeling down. It will get you up, it works for me J .Since I memorized it, I don’t need to carry it around in my wallet anymore, it’s simpler this way, I can close my eyes and say it in silence, anytime, anywhere.

If one person uses this and change his/her life like it changed me, writing this was worthy J .
I sincerely hope I can help someone live a happier life.
Any questions about this, or anything else, feel free to e-mail me, I’ll be glad to answer it ASAP.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pimpfromdayone

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Yep, they say the toughest critic is yourself.
 

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yeah confidence can only come from within, whatever works i guess

for me it was just how responsive women are to me when i actually started to give it effort and also fighting my anxiety problems head on

i tried a method similar to what you're talking about, but it didnt work for me lol
 
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