Wait a week or two?

[Matlm]

Hey guys, I went on a date with this chick friday. She was all up on me during the movie. When i went to kiss her we kissed for like 2 seconds and then she pulled away and said "I can't do this." I asked her why not and she said she wasn't ready yet.

She just got out of an LTR six weeks. Im assuming "im not ready yet," either means she isn't ready to start hooking up with guys again or she wasn't ready to kiss me, after all it was our first date.

Regardless of the reason I knew that it was valid. She wasn't trying to play games with me and I was totally cool with it. I didn't feel hurt at all because I really appreciated the honesty.

my question is simple. Should I call her tommarow and set up a date for this weekend, or should I wait a week and call next week?

 

[Kodiac]

Down Boy.

Wait a few day's before calling at the very least.

Then take it from there.

 

[Matlm]

like tuesday wednesdayish?

 

[Kodiac]

Well, you went out with her last Friday for your 'first' date. Her anti-slut defenses kicked in when you went for the kiss. Nothing major...

Call when you want to call, but seeing she made the comment about being 'not ready yet' id give her a little more time (been 4 days already). Id probably wait till Monday.

Amongst other things it will keep her thinking about you & whether she said something wrong etc.. etc..

 

[Matlm]

Yeah bro, good point. I talked to her sunday for a few seconds because my boy and I were looking for parties so i asked her if she knew of any.

Do you think those were anti-slut defenses or had more to do with her getting out of an LTR?

 

[Kodiac]

Do you think those were anti-slut defenses or had more to do with her getting out of an LTR?

How long was the LTR ? It's probably a combination of both anti-slut defenses (it's the first date, early days yet) and the fact that she just got out of a long term relationship.

But, all that aside...don't jump the gun, give her some space (to think about things and YOU) and then setup another date with her. Judge her IL on this second date and this should answer all your questions above ; try for the kiss again - see how she reacts now she has had ample time to think about it / you.

I wouldn't be worrying too much atm, enjoy yourself... besides, there's not too much point - not much will change between now and that 2nd date.

Play it cool.
Good luck.

 

[OpenMind]

NEXT her. if she wasnt over her ex last week... she aint gonna be over him next week.. or the week after or the week after.. there is a reason that you do the kiss test.. she failed it.. it wasnt like you were asking her to bendover.. you were just trying to give her a kiss???? WTF.. her mind is still on her ex and will be for a while.. NEXXXXXXXXXXXXXT.. save yourself the heartache.. good luck!

 

[THA REALNESS]

If men actually would stop when women say stuff like that the
entire human race would have vanished with Adam.

Women will always say "I can't do this" .


Your wife will say that " i can't do this "....after sex.

I'm not sponsoring rapists here . I'm saying when it come to sex you gotta take it as far as she lets you cuz if not you will never get laid.Please Beleive It!Beleive it Please!

She's all hot and bothered ,date her this weekend!

 

[bman]

always turn it around. should have said "hey you're the one thats all over me" you should have waited a few minutes and tried again. i would wait like 5+ days to call her.

 

[OpenMind]

Let her do the chasing. this is a tough one because she could have been testing you, but i doubt it because you werent trying to fxck her, just kiss her. leave the ball in her court. if she has high interest (which i doubt), she will call you back. then you can set up another date and dont even hesitate at that point to try and kiss her.. if she rejects you again, throw out her phone #!