backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I come across real life stories becuase of the groups I am associated with and alot of them can relate to this forum.
None of these names are real for anamity sake
Deshawn has 8 months clean, is in pretty good shape, makes pretty good money. He's just starting to date becuase of weight loss and becuase it was strongly recommended he stay out of relationships for a period of time when he first got clean.
he goes on a few dates, now that women are interested in him, and runs into a girl name Lynn. She's a decent looking girl. not a knockout but not ugly at all. datable depending on personality. Redhead. She's a couple of years older than him, and they have alot in common, although they are different races (he's black, she's white). They are both athiests, He has a college degree, she is 6 months away from getting hers. She has 2 months clean but you could tell at least from an outsiders perspective, she had her head on her sholders.
one thing lead to another... and they started going on dates, and found out they really like each other.
They start dating, all is fine for about 2 weeks. They both live at a place where recovering addicts go to get on their feet while still being out int he real world. Another guy moves named Sam who not only moves in, is Desahwns roommate.
Deshawn can already tell that sam is hitting on his girl. Sam is the same age as Lynn, is white, works at ihop (deshawn is an ASP.NET programmer) and also has less than a week clean.
Sam jones the college gym that Lynn goes to.. Deshawn doesn't find out until later.
Lynn also has a homosexual friend named Paul. They are like brothers and sisters. Sam hangs out with Paul alot and in turn hangs out with Lynn.
Soon, Lynn is telling Deshawn that he is smoothering her. He is confused becuase well.. he doesn't feel he is smothering her, no more than her friends are, he works and goes to meetings and goes to the gym. But he does admit that having a relatioship is hard to do when you live with someone off the bat, so they make set times to go out and do stuff.
that lates for all of a half of a week.
her birthday comes up, he takes her out to a nice resturant, buys her about 150 dollars worth of gifts (amoung other countless things he's done for her, and done so happily).. and he can tell she is distant torwards him. He wants to take her somewhere else after dinner and she wants to go back to where they live.
so he asks her.. well.. do you even lke me? she doesn't give an answer. he's pissed by now.
So then he says okay w ell we dont' date anymore.
The next saturday everyone is gone to play put put golf and ironically deshawn doesn't know about it. then sam comes out the blue and tells desawn that he isnt' hitting on his ex GF.
Deashawn then finds sam sneaking on the phone and sneaking around and pays him more attentiona nd notices that him and his EX are hanging out more. he confrunts his room mate and he says yes he was talking to her.
I personally know all three of these people and I know sam enough to know where he has no long term plan on staying clean, he doesn't go to meetings, doesn't take his soberity seriously, yet he's probably the worst alcoholic I've ever seen. Lynn started out very gung ho about her recovery, which is one of the resaons Deshawn was attracted to her as he is very serious about his recovery. Now she doesn't go to meetings and has even started missing days in school.
Now, they dont' hang out with paul anymore, they just go and leave and do **** (alot like he used to do with her when she was dating).
everywhere he turns around they are all on each other. he comes out side one day and finds his tounge down her throat. he can't take it.
Deshawn sits down and talks to Lynn and asked what the **** did he do to have her fvck his roommate besides be a good, respectable person? she says she wants to be his friend and she cares for him and denies anything is going on with his room mate, yet can't sit still long enough as soon as she sees him walking by. It's pretty ovbious she does not care about Deshawn and very much cares for Sam yet he does not figure what sam has that Deshawn doesn't (i'm scratching my head on that one myself)
All of this, and somehow Deshawn doesn't replase (very proud of him).
But soon after that converstaion Lynn actually does releaspe.
What do you think about that situtation?
I"m very curious to know...
some of it i can make out. He has some DJ qualities (moving on for the most part once he realized it was over with him and her) but some AFC qualities as well (too quick to committ)
None of these names are real for anamity sake
Deshawn has 8 months clean, is in pretty good shape, makes pretty good money. He's just starting to date becuase of weight loss and becuase it was strongly recommended he stay out of relationships for a period of time when he first got clean.
he goes on a few dates, now that women are interested in him, and runs into a girl name Lynn. She's a decent looking girl. not a knockout but not ugly at all. datable depending on personality. Redhead. She's a couple of years older than him, and they have alot in common, although they are different races (he's black, she's white). They are both athiests, He has a college degree, she is 6 months away from getting hers. She has 2 months clean but you could tell at least from an outsiders perspective, she had her head on her sholders.
one thing lead to another... and they started going on dates, and found out they really like each other.
They start dating, all is fine for about 2 weeks. They both live at a place where recovering addicts go to get on their feet while still being out int he real world. Another guy moves named Sam who not only moves in, is Desahwns roommate.
Deshawn can already tell that sam is hitting on his girl. Sam is the same age as Lynn, is white, works at ihop (deshawn is an ASP.NET programmer) and also has less than a week clean.
Sam jones the college gym that Lynn goes to.. Deshawn doesn't find out until later.
Lynn also has a homosexual friend named Paul. They are like brothers and sisters. Sam hangs out with Paul alot and in turn hangs out with Lynn.
Soon, Lynn is telling Deshawn that he is smoothering her. He is confused becuase well.. he doesn't feel he is smothering her, no more than her friends are, he works and goes to meetings and goes to the gym. But he does admit that having a relatioship is hard to do when you live with someone off the bat, so they make set times to go out and do stuff.
that lates for all of a half of a week.
her birthday comes up, he takes her out to a nice resturant, buys her about 150 dollars worth of gifts (amoung other countless things he's done for her, and done so happily).. and he can tell she is distant torwards him. He wants to take her somewhere else after dinner and she wants to go back to where they live.
so he asks her.. well.. do you even lke me? she doesn't give an answer. he's pissed by now.
So then he says okay w ell we dont' date anymore.
The next saturday everyone is gone to play put put golf and ironically deshawn doesn't know about it. then sam comes out the blue and tells desawn that he isnt' hitting on his ex GF.
Deashawn then finds sam sneaking on the phone and sneaking around and pays him more attentiona nd notices that him and his EX are hanging out more. he confrunts his room mate and he says yes he was talking to her.
I personally know all three of these people and I know sam enough to know where he has no long term plan on staying clean, he doesn't go to meetings, doesn't take his soberity seriously, yet he's probably the worst alcoholic I've ever seen. Lynn started out very gung ho about her recovery, which is one of the resaons Deshawn was attracted to her as he is very serious about his recovery. Now she doesn't go to meetings and has even started missing days in school.
Now, they dont' hang out with paul anymore, they just go and leave and do **** (alot like he used to do with her when she was dating).
everywhere he turns around they are all on each other. he comes out side one day and finds his tounge down her throat. he can't take it.
Deshawn sits down and talks to Lynn and asked what the **** did he do to have her fvck his roommate besides be a good, respectable person? she says she wants to be his friend and she cares for him and denies anything is going on with his room mate, yet can't sit still long enough as soon as she sees him walking by. It's pretty ovbious she does not care about Deshawn and very much cares for Sam yet he does not figure what sam has that Deshawn doesn't (i'm scratching my head on that one myself)
All of this, and somehow Deshawn doesn't replase (very proud of him).
But soon after that converstaion Lynn actually does releaspe.
What do you think about that situtation?
I"m very curious to know...
some of it i can make out. He has some DJ qualities (moving on for the most part once he realized it was over with him and her) but some AFC qualities as well (too quick to committ)