"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Very Shy Girl, need advice

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Hey guys some one help me because this is a weird situation.

I liked this girl last year. She was very VERY shy. She liked me too. I would call her every night and she would never answer. She only texted me and talked to me online.

Well nothing amounted from this so we drifted apart.

I had a girlfriend all summer and now we recently just broke up so now I am single again, so I thought I'd go partying.

I went to my friends college, and what do you know? She goes there.

Her friends told me she still likes me and she wants to hook up with me.

So we went to a party the next night, and she came up to me...drunk...and said "I dont know why I ever stopped liking you, we should make up for wasted time"

IN my head Im thinking "WOW this shy girl never said that! That's amazing I never knew what she felt!"

So then I made out with her, and it was amazing, all these previous crush feelings came rushing all over my body, and I just broke up with my girlfriend so it helped amazingly.

HOWEVER 3 minutes later, she's making out with another guy.

And another
and another....

She went on a kissing spree. 8 guys, including me. I was furious. I punched a wall until my hand was numb and bleeding.

I said goodbye to her when I left and she apologized about making out with 8 guys saying she was just "drunk" and said is she was sober it would have been only me. Then she said it's really good to see me again and kissed me.

So I was a little happy about that,

later that night I saw her at my friend's dorm, but again she was acting shy, she was the same girl I knew. We didn't do anything else that night except occasionally talk.

I went home the next day and texted her saying it was really good seeing her and I should be up there again in 2 weeks and she said..."yeah it was really good seeing you! hopefully i'll see you again in two weeks haha"

So Im confused. What do I do? Do I talk to her? Do I just wait until I see her again? Should I tell her my feelings, that I like her back? I dont know!!!

PLEASE HELP!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I-tallionStallion

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That post makes me feel embarrased...geez...you got played...this girl is retarded. You don't want to be with someone like her who acts like that. When people are drunk, they still have knowledge of what they are doing.

You can find a wayyy better girl than that piece of trash non-self-respecting wh0re. Don't ever talk to her...not worth your time. STAY AWAY FROM HER. If you see her play it cool and put your focus on a woman who is much hotter and much more deserving of your attention. Don't let her play games with you.

Don't get so angry over this chick, move on. Btw you should have stopped counting after the first guy she kissed...
 

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Yep the drunk excuse is no valid excuse at all.

Also punching the wall until your hand was numb and bleeding is the stupidest sh!t not only you but any guy can do be it over some chick or for any reason at all.

The only exception to this is a guy who is a martial artist trying to break through a brick wall to complete his training or something.

Other than that stop doing this stupid sh!t to let out your anger.

So to sum up...

1. Don't take this girl seriously as she is a slvt and shyness can be used as a clever manipulation ploy to make a girl seem harmless. It doesn't at all mean a girl is an innocent. Use this girl for everything and anything you can but do not invest your emotions or your heart in her. She is not relationship material. She is a fvck and a chuck at best.

2. Never punch a wall again unless you are training to become a master in Jeet Kun Do.
 

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man, since the previous two posts somewhat say half of my opinion, specially the kontrollerx's in a funny way, i wanna say the other half of my opinion. ok, if we see from the girl's point of view, and we believe she is really shy, so she would normally not be going too cosy or not much forward with other guys in a sober state. but human beings crave sex in their core. so wat does she do? when she lost control over herself that night, she was just enjoying all the attention or the fun she had been missing all her life, u get me. shyness can be a manipulation at times, damn true it is and mostly in case of girls but if she is really shy, then wat. come on guys, i dont know why i feel that we the don juans are only focusing on beating the girl in the game but it is the game that matters and the end result. see it is kind of a ritual by which we chose our potential mates, not that we have to **** any meat taht comes our way. nooooooo! and man, the worst thing u hve done is u acted damn needy, u deserve a punch in ur face rather. now, waht u do is go and start flirting and ask her out as soon as possible, if she is in, she will be ready to take it to the next level and if she is playin u, she would still keep on playin since u acted needy. i think u should count this as a lesson to move on but i dont think u should let ur hopes down yet. i see some light for sure, though very dim. and dont fall over her, let her fall over u now!
 

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KontrollerX said:
2. Never punch a wall again unless you are training to become a master in Jeet Kun Do.
Done this before... you say it is a bad thing to do? Or are you rather implying that there should never be a need to be so upset with your situation that you'd like to punch one?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Huffman said:
Done this before... you say it is a bad thing to do? Or are you rather implying that there should never be a need to be so upset with your situation that you'd like to punch one?
its only that he says a true DJ never does that! And that also for girls, he has got way better things going on in his life!
 

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Huffman said:
Done this before... you say it is a bad thing to do? Or are you rather implying that there should never be a need to be so upset with your situation that you'd like to punch one?
Its human and natural to get upset at certain situations that are out of your control but it is fvcking stupid to injure yourself as a result of them.

Find a more productive way of releasing your anger whether it be controlling it until you can find a proper punching bag or someother harmless method of release but don't fvcking punch a cement/brick/steel wall.

Its not only a goddamned moronic/stupid thing to do and whatever other insulting term you can think of its not the DJ thing to do much less the intelligent human being thing to do.

Common sense people.

Learn it, live it, love it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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IN my head Im thinking "WOW this shy girl never said that! That's amazing I never knew what she felt!"

So then I made out with her, and it was amazing, all these previous crush feelings came rushing all over my body, and I just broke up with my girlfriend so it helped amazingly.

HOWEVER 3 minutes later, she's making out with another guy.

And another
and another....
LOL, thtas funny dude.

Guys say shes a slut, others say she just lost control, however I dont think shes relationship material, if she does this now it doesnt change even if she had a bf or not, if she did it once shell do it again, just dont invest emotions on this one, its true, she can lost control and secretly wanted to makeout with 8 guys and she did it because alchy made her lose inhibitions, however this means shed probably do it again, your call..
 
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