"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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using 'Speed' instead of Getting Numbers

donArjun

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I am just curious if there are any DJs out there, who INSTEAD of getting a number, do something a little more more aggressive than asking for numbers, or make date plans right at the first meeting..or do something with her right then

Why ?


u got a conversation now that is hot right now ( aka your syncing with her somewhat ) ....I don't understand why you have to abruptly end it for a "Number" as a first option, it cools things down and then the girls goes home and contemplates it in her head etc. A guy on another seduction site, says use "SPEED", as things are still hot between you guys and since women are basically emotional, you loose the connection and her logical brian and her friends can take over....

I am little impatient, I want to know if shes into me enough to do something right then and there, and I like that adreiline rush of knowing that right..

So , Just want to know if any of you DJs embrace 'speed' and using the connection while its hot, and what are your thoughts on it. BTw, I have only tried for the number so far but I m thinking theres got to be a faster way.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SELF-MASTERY

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I believe in the insta- date and have sold my buddies on it. Instead of going for the digits we invite her into our world for a brief moment, this could be for coffee, to another aisle in a bookstore, shyt you could take her to the produce section at the market--- my point is to have her enter your world for a while and if you have the connection she might go home with you. Numbers are a waste of time without any kind of connection...
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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What you call "speed" I call qualifying. I determine right then and there the interest level of the woman by going for the goal and it sure as h3ll ain't a stupid telephone number. The ultimate goal I believe is to get the woman to agree to be with you at some other location. Think about it, isn't that what we all want in some manner or another?

Yeah, getting her number could be considered a step to getting there. So can trading emails for a couple of weeks, texting for a couple of more and then eventually talking on the phone. I don't know about the rest of you guys but I think I can speak for donArjun and say that we don't have time for that BS.

So why not jump to the heart of the matter and get her to met you someplace? Well, I'll tell you why guys usually don't:

  • They haven't gained enough rapport with the woman for her to feel comfortable enough to meet him somewhere

  • The guy is afraid of rejection and he's delaying the inevitable

The point is, if you have gained rapport and you don't have your sack in a sling, you will feel comfortable enough to qualify the woman by asking her to meet you somewhere.
 
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