Using "excuses" instead of courage. Here's why.

[ChaseMe]

I get the courage thing. It puts you in the "manly" role right away. The problem is, it doesn't work at least HALF the time because:
1. In a first meeting situation, its just coming on too strong.
2. Women need to fool themselves by using EXCUSES to act on a date offer.

Instead, at least 75 percent of the time, I use BUILT IN EXCUSES that make it EASY for her to say yes. Remember, she doesn't KNOW you, and isn't READY to DATE you, but she IS ready to SEE you again. The EXCUSE is perfect.

THE EXCUSE TO:
1. TALK TO HER:: Be creative. There is ALWAYS a REASON to talk to someone. Is that yogurt in your cart any good? What time is it? "Can you think of anything more boring than standing in this line"? Have you ever been told that you resemble Julia Roberts? Where did you buy that brand of sun screen?

2. GET HER EMAIL/PHONE:: Ask her for a bit of information that you KNOW she would have to look up somewhere....(reason for a later call, such as the exact website address of some site)....OR use this:: "CAN YOU FIND OUT.....if i can get a discount to join that gym..." .....
Or conversation like this:
"I've gotta go, but youre the most interesting person I've met today. Give me your phone number so I can call you when I'm feeling bored!.....

3. ASK HER OUT::: "Do you think you could help me with my backhand?"....."Since youre good with grammar, could you go over my resume?"......or One of the best:: "I NEED SOME PROFESSIONAL ADVICE ON....."what to see when i go to the bahamas"...."what the best five colleges are for engineering"...etc.

4. ASKING TO SEE HER AGAIN::: "Your black lab sounds so wild, that I think I'll have to see her in person"....."Since you know fashion, I'm recruiting you to help me pick out some stuff this weekend"

See how much EASIER everything is with a built in excuse?? For you AND her. And subconsciously, she's NEVER confronted with anything threatening. Instead, you end up hanging out once or twice without the pressure of a date.

 

[Inspector Clouseau]

With exception of #1, no I absolutely disagree with you.

Women know what you are up to, they know your excuses are just that, excuses. She knows you want her and using excuses are just beating around the bush. How is using excuses any easier for her, when getting straight to the point is much more simple and effective?

By your method, you may get more "yes"'s out of a woman, but you must ask yourself at what cost to accuracy? By your method, you will have no idea if she gives you her phone number out of genuine interest.

"Give me your phone number so I can call you when I'm feeling bored!"
Translation: "I think you are boring."

As for #3, asking a woman out: why not simply try to set up an actual date, like a coffee date? By your method, you are asking the girl "I can't find my balls. Maybe you can overlook I don't have any?"

Point is things are much easier when you don't beat around the bush and you simply get down to business.