URGENT SITUATION (This Is Not a Drill!) Need Advice

[Dante420]

Alright if most of you remember me, I'm pretty successful at what I'm doing and have been for awhile. I'm young, 17 years of age.

Now here's the situation.

Out of all the girls I'm "talking to" there is one that shows a lot of potential. I just barely met her a week ago and I wanna get to know her first but she shows a lot of interest and is pretty vocal. I don't wanna jump into anything before I at least know her better. One of the first things she said to me after getting my number and texting me was asked me what makes me smile and said "I wanna make you smile more cause you got a nice smile". She's not slutty at all, she's not a flirt but she knows how to flirt. She not only shows interest vocally but she does physically, we haven't done anything but she spent the night at my house and we slept together and she touches me a lot and holds me and is really affectionate.

Details

We hung out on Friday, went to a party she invited me to, it was boring so we left and went to the movies. After the movie, I dropped her off.

Saturday I picked her up and we decided to go to Boston like I wanted to. We went to Boston. Came back and she slept over my house in my bed with me. I drop her off later. I didn't go for sex, basically we both fell asleep. I dropped her off later that day.

So yesterday, even though we haven't known each other long. I haven't done anything, and clearly have no commitment she IM's me and I asked her about her day and she said it wasn't good and that she felt really bad but she let this kid kiss her and she said she couldn't not think of me when it happened and that she feels really bad about it.

I found this funny that she thought I'd care.

Anyway, it's not like I'm keeping myself exclusive so I can't expect her to and I do actually like her out of all the other girls because she just kind of seems perfect. But now that there is potentially another guy in the situation is it worth competing for her? Shouldn't this be a good test?

What should my strategy be?

 

[Dante420]

How open should I be about my interest for this situation?

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What would set me apart from the other kid?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

What did you say after she told you this about kissing the other guy?

As a general rule I don't do sleepovers with girls I'm not having sex with. What are your intentions here? Obviously what you want to get out of this will affect your approach, but be careful with throwing around words like "perfect" and the like. Just make sure you're not treating her "special" because of how you view her.

Regardless of your intentions, it's probably time to escalate further. Either she's totally jerking you around or she's really into you. I hate to be cliché, but I want to again stress not to put her on a pedestal just because she seems cooler than the average girl you meet.

 

[Dante420]

I just responded the only way I thought someone I my position should, this was over AIM but with my choice of words I laughed it off, smiled at her for being concerned about my feelings on the subject after sucha short time of knowing each other.


Basically I need some advice to build a new strategy for the situation.

Should I ask her where this other kid is with her and how she feels about him ever?

Should I mention him ever?

How should be towards her? I didn't get advice yet today so I decided today (spur of the moment decided to hang out today) to just be nothing but be myself but throw in a touch of a compliment and a sign of interest in her as a person an potential future.

This was done in two lines at different times. So I didn't go mushy

 

[Scars]

Stop exactly what you're doing. Hush.

Solution: Spin more plates.

Obviously it bothers you somewhat or you wouldn't have posted this. As for this being a "good" test, I doubt it. Notice how most lying cheating slvts are usually the ones that tell their boyfriends "exactly" what they're doing and how oh so honest they are? She's a girl. All girls get horney and scandalous if given the opportunity. Spin more plates and forget this.

 

[Dante420]

It really doesn't bother me, just adds a new dynamic to the situation that I think is a very common situation.

You don't think 99% of the people on here will never meet a woman who just met someone around the same time? You can't expect every situation to be an instant exclusive relationship.

 

[Scars]

Exactly. So spin more plates. It keeps your mind off whatever the fvck she is doing, all the the while you are getting your **** wet so you're just happy confident badass and her IL sky rockets so no matter even if she was talking to some chump when she met you he is left in the dust.

 

[Dante420]

Exactly. So spin more plates. It keeps your mind off whatever the fvck she is doing, all the the while you are getting your **** wet so you're just happy confident badass and her IL sky rockets so no matter even if she was talking to some chump when she met you he is left in the dust.

I gotcha. Should I ever mention him though or just keep him as the "not worthy of conversation" category?


Just funny that she came to me like we were in a committed relationship. I'm well aware that some girls are really good at working guys and stroking egos and making you feel good, what's a good tester for that? She seems like the real deal though so I'm not too concerned but got a watchful eye on that aspect.

 

[Scars]

Don't even mention it. Ever.

You don't need a "tester". Ask yourself a question. Is she interested, yes or no? Just keep an eye out for IOI's girls are sending them out all the time. But honestly, it just sounds like you need some reassurance. Just be confident. Don't dwell over the fact she likes you or not. Just have fun and spin plates and she'll come around eventually.

 

[Dante420]

Got it sounds good.

Could you refer me to more info on IOI's or fill me in? Never heard the term

 

[playerone]

Although Scars has already said not to mention the other guy while you're with her, i want to stress it again. You should not see any other guy as competition. Don't try too hard to get her, and you'll be fine. Be a man at all times.

Have you kissed her yet? If not, do it.

If you haven't held her hands yet, do it, with confidence.

If she asks you about your relationship together, tell her, "I want you to be my girl", or anything alpha.

Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[Dante420]

I've kissed her

Slept with her - didn't sex her

She's very affectionate and we both touch each other caressingly and affectionately. She shows major interest verbally and physically, like on Saturday. The third day we hung out we were walking around the city and she just grabs me and stops me and kisses me and was like "I haven't got my kiss yet today"

Then another time before that, the first kiss which was on last Thursday (yeah now that I think about it I hung out with her last Thursday, Friday night, Saturday all day and she slept over, and today) she was like "Yes!" after it (jokingly). She's a little comedian.

Today I told her something like "I couldn't see myself ever arguing with you, that's why I couldn't see us together, make-up sex is good and we just would never be able to argue. We might have to end up faking arguments"

Later today when she talked to me on AIM before she went to bed she made a follow-up joke on that, started talking **** and when I checked her on it (jokingly, knowing she was joking to) she said "You said we wouldn't get in fights, I'm trying"

 

[playerone]

All sounds good to me. Provided that you guys hold hands when going out, I don't think that guy she mentioned would be anywhere near the picture.

The next time she ends up in your bed, escalate with foreplay. Don't hit the accelerator too hard, though.

She's yours.

 

[Dante420]

All sounds good to me. Provided that you guys hold hands when going out, I don't think that guy she mentioned would be anywhere near the picture.

The next time she ends up in your bed, escalate with foreplay. Don't hit the accelerator too hard, though.

She's yours.

Sounds good. Thanks for the advice everyone.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Although Scars has already said not to mention the other guy while you're with her, i want to stress it again. You should not see any other guy as competition. Don't try too hard to get her, and you'll be fine. Be a man at all times.

YES!

Have you kissed her yet? If not, do it.

YES

If you haven't held her hands yet, do it, with confidence.

NOOOOOOO....They're not bf/gf, no hand holding

If she asks you about your relationship together, tell her, "I want you to be my girl", or anything alpha.

Alpha Males do not use words to indicate their interest, they seduce verbally and use actions to make the girl chase them. NEVER EVER EVER tell a girl, that you want her to be "your girl;" that's like handing over the keys to the new Ferrari to the 16 year old who just got his license.....asking for disaster. You lose your power, you lose her interest and most importantly you lose the girl.

Good luck and keep us posted.

Competition is inevitable, even with average girls. Your job is to showcase your personality, your cofidence and your aura, which will make her chase you and pursue you. If she's playing games you'll be able to tell. Bottom line is your single; go date, hook-up, talk to as many different girls as you can.



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