URGENT: About to go clubbing solo... Last minute Advice?

[Livingitup22]

Just got out of work and decided to go out to the bars by myself My friends are either at work, with their GF's, or sitting on their couch and have no plans of going out tonight. I've been in a minor slump over the past few weeks, plus I'm going back to school soon and don't want to waste a Friday night. Had some success with going solo when I was trying to break out of my AFC ruts.

I've got..[looks at clock] about an hour before I leave. That'll give me three good hours. I'm going to go get ready, and right before I leave, I'll check back in here and see what's been posted. After I get home, I'll post a field report. Anyone got ANY tips? I'm open to just about anything, so If you want something field tested, I'll be open to trying it (within reason) Okay, going to head off to the shower. Your input is appreciated....

 

[Ronin I]

Ok when I was living in a city where I knew NOBODY, I used to hit the clubs/bars on my own. What I usually liked to do was get a seat at the bar and begin shooting the sh!t with the bartender (get their name, build rapport, etc).

This would get me in a social mood and would also serve as at least some social proof when I would talk to a girl later on (call bartender over by name and order drink or whatever).

Also if there are people just chilling at the bar just strike up a convo, etc.

Throw back a couple drinks and act like you own the place.

 

[vdk]

*Come in to any bar/club with a care free attitude. Don't worry too much about picking up, just have fun.

*Make friends with guys and use them as wingmen. Spot anyone in the bar that is drinking alone use them allies. Remember their names so they can be your wingman when you come back another day.

*Smile! Eye contact for most people is no problem but they dont smile!

*Dress well. A nice leather jacket would be good. Hairstyle, please dont over gel it. If you can, use your blowdryer to style your hair after wetting it for a natural effect. A good slim undershirt showing off your good body. So when it gets 'hot' you can take your jacket off and let women drool over your body.

*Dont act nervous. By looking at your post it sounds as if you are getting married.

 

[One on One]

Post a field report when you get back.

 

[ryoshi]

One thing that I've found to be helpful is to make friends with women. Wingmen are fine but you'll appear more desirable and trustworthy after hanging with other chicks. Sometimes girls are looking for cool guys to hang out with and sometimes the girl friend will be more supportive then a guy would and it makes a better impression.

Also, guys will be more friendly with you as they want to meet your girl friend.

Win win situation.

 

[dionysius_d]

watch

Be an observer.. know what the other people in the bar are doing and who they're with.

Then wait for the right time to strike if you so desire.

Have fun just observing people and their behaviour until you are ready to move in on someone.

 

[Walden]

Yeah also choose someplace quiet (as in not noisy) at first, this also helps you to approach paris or groups of girls that can then act as pivots.

 

[davelmn2003]

I don't have anything new to add I suppose, but I agree with a lot of what others have said:

Definitely strike up a conversation with the bartender and other guys sitting at the bar or on the dance floor. They can become good wingmen. I started talking to this guy on the floor and it turned out that he knew at least 5 girls on the dance floor, including hot ones. He started introducing me to them!! Plus, it's fun just to talk to these half-drunken guys. Now, if you see these guys again next time at the bar (especially if you go alone, as I do), then you have people to talk to.

What I normally do is to sit down at the bar, order a few drinks, let the bar get busier while I observe people. After a few drinks (2 to 3) when people begin to go on the dance floor I move over there and watch, until I want to dance or an opportunity arises.

Don't drink too much!

Always bring your pen and a piece of paper in case what really matters happens!!