http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30085 is the prequel to this thread.
Maybe she has ESP, but my posting here might have transmitted some brain waves to her because last night she called to ask if she could come over so we could talk.
Even though she's got great attitude, killer body and is othewise a cool chick, I'm ready to NEXT her unless she starts making a whole lot of sense and changing. Or at least convincing me she will change and it's worth my while to stick around a bit.
While being sensitive, I did hit her with some tough questions.
We've discussed the Enneagram here before, and I'm certain she is a "2" the "Helper", described here: http://enneagraminstitute.com/typetwo.asp
For a humorous but also unfortunately very accurate look at this girl, see this site:
http://www.handprint.com/HM/ENN/enn2.html
She is this to a "t".
Last night she talked about her father, a strict Baptist minister and her mother who were very repressive about sex when she was growing up. She even said her younger sister is now a lesbian probably due to her parent's constant message that sex was bad, feeling good from sex was bad, orgasm was bad, sex was only for making babies and only in marriage, boys only wanted one thing, stay away from boys and on and on. She said she completely rebelled against them when she was 16 and began sex then.
She described a series of relationships with boys that became more degrading as she tried more and more to please them. She felt that the only thing she had to offer to boys was her body. Because she is a genuinely caring and giving person, combined with the idea that her parents gave her that feeling good during sex was a 'sin', she used her body to attract men, but absolutely could not allow herself to feel pleasure. She said that every guy eventually broke up with her. She blamed the guy, but seeing how she is, it seems they broke up with her out of frustration.
She says it all came to a halt about 18 months ago when the last guy dumped her after dating for about a year. She tells me I'm the first guy ever to notice she faked orgasm, and the first guy ever to actually want to talk to her. It got late and we called it a night and she went home, but she wants to continue talking tonight. Last night to say goodbye she gave me a kiss that made my knees weak. Whew.
She has so many other positive qualities to offer, and she seems to have such a positive attitude, I might consider listening to her and seeing where this goes. Everyone has problems (including me), and nowadays I'm defining a good relationship as one where you know and accept each other's weirdnesses and can successfully deal with them.
She wants to be exclusive and even used the "L" word last night (!), but I'm holding my cards close to my chest on this one to see where it goes.
Maybe she has ESP, but my posting here might have transmitted some brain waves to her because last night she called to ask if she could come over so we could talk.
Even though she's got great attitude, killer body and is othewise a cool chick, I'm ready to NEXT her unless she starts making a whole lot of sense and changing. Or at least convincing me she will change and it's worth my while to stick around a bit.
While being sensitive, I did hit her with some tough questions.
We've discussed the Enneagram here before, and I'm certain she is a "2" the "Helper", described here: http://enneagraminstitute.com/typetwo.asp
For a humorous but also unfortunately very accurate look at this girl, see this site:
http://www.handprint.com/HM/ENN/enn2.html
She is this to a "t".
Last night she talked about her father, a strict Baptist minister and her mother who were very repressive about sex when she was growing up. She even said her younger sister is now a lesbian probably due to her parent's constant message that sex was bad, feeling good from sex was bad, orgasm was bad, sex was only for making babies and only in marriage, boys only wanted one thing, stay away from boys and on and on. She said she completely rebelled against them when she was 16 and began sex then.
She described a series of relationships with boys that became more degrading as she tried more and more to please them. She felt that the only thing she had to offer to boys was her body. Because she is a genuinely caring and giving person, combined with the idea that her parents gave her that feeling good during sex was a 'sin', she used her body to attract men, but absolutely could not allow herself to feel pleasure. She said that every guy eventually broke up with her. She blamed the guy, but seeing how she is, it seems they broke up with her out of frustration.
She says it all came to a halt about 18 months ago when the last guy dumped her after dating for about a year. She tells me I'm the first guy ever to notice she faked orgasm, and the first guy ever to actually want to talk to her. It got late and we called it a night and she went home, but she wants to continue talking tonight. Last night to say goodbye she gave me a kiss that made my knees weak. Whew.
She has so many other positive qualities to offer, and she seems to have such a positive attitude, I might consider listening to her and seeing where this goes. Everyone has problems (including me), and nowadays I'm defining a good relationship as one where you know and accept each other's weirdnesses and can successfully deal with them.
She wants to be exclusive and even used the "L" word last night (!), but I'm holding my cards close to my chest on this one to see where it goes.
