"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Update on the ex gf fvcking sh1t hit the fan

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aix237...no offense, but I feel the real problem in this situation is you. Looking from a totally objective position, I honestly believe YOU are the cancer in the relationship.

If you want her...then stop playing stupid games and be straight forward. I mean...what's the big deal? LOL.

But I think that when a man needs Nyquil so he can sleep at night, because of his frustration for one woman...then something is seriously wrong.

I mean...can you blame her for been defensive and protecting her feelings? You are all over the place. You have MISTAKINGLY used "dj" stuff taught or preached in this board.

This is a situation that is a slam dunk. You want her? Then go for it. But stop playing games dude. It is not helping you or her at all.

Personally...you were together for 2 years...did not work. Where away for another two years...and you think things will work now?

What a waste of time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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U ever been involved in the samre situation? Have an ex live 30 seconds down the road. I know u probably wouldn't get urseld involved. Emotions run high when u r attracted to someone and have feelings for and have a deep intense past with. U just say its some girl forgoet about her. Easier said than done buddy. We talked about marriage before and almost got engaged. I honestly care but only at certain times. I've dated girls when sh1t went down and I've kept my sh1t in check. With her its a different story. How am I the problem? Im the one who was onchalant about how things were going then she decides to get stupid and drop a bomb on me about some bs dude and say she's scared and wants this and that and can't do this and that yet. Dude she's all over the place too. The other night she brought up all this sh1t saying ljbf and im done having sex with u cause I don't want to get attaached then literally 5 minutes later im cvmming on her azz.
 

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Sounds to me like she feels trapped when shes with you because of your emotional attachment to her. Because she already has you attached to her as her BF the reward for committing herself to you is low and the risk is high.

You have to reframe your situation with this girl. Create a world for yourself where she would be an idiot to not commit to you.
 

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"I hate drama but it comes to me so I guess that's what im accustomed too."

You love drama or else you wouldn't consistently find yourself involved with AW's.

We all have absolute power over our lives so you can walk away from any AW at anytime that you want but you don't because once again you love, crave and desire drama.

If you want to break the cycle buy the book Rational Recovery or look into completing a 12 step program or get some therapy and find the source of your drama needs so you can solve the problem.

If you're fine with the way things are however like others have said you don't need our help.

Keep doing what you're doing and enjoy all the engineered headaches and various crises you bring upon yourself.
 

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This girl is a fool. I got a lot going for me and she knows this. It p1sses me off cause I stand up to her azz and feel I have high value. She wants a dude that will let her get away with anything despite her claiming she's turned off by that. She told me her ex was a guy who would never say anything to her and let her do anything she wanted and she didn't like that. She needs to be the one with thepower cause that's all she is used too. Right now I make more money than her and will soon be making waaaayyy more than her. I drive a totally better car. She feels im way too priviliged and spoiled which I admit. By me standing up to her, calling her out on her bs and being a flake with me then saying fvck u so fast after the bs she feels her value is compromised. U can say im kidding myself but im not. She knows im happy with my life overall and wants me to getr to her level be cause she's not. She has lse and gets her jollies on slammin the ddor in ur face and then having the guy worship her for no reason. My brother has lse also and he says the same sh1t trying to bring me down. Swear deja vu twice her from before and my other ex. Same sh1t about sex and everything. Gettin the jollies of fvckin with duddes heads. I am going to cut her off. Don't know if ill crack or not or if she will. By me sending the text saying why are u acting like a flake I need to chill out from u might incline her to call me later which I wanted wish I never did though.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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