Unusually approached girls

[CharlieCW]

Now I don't intend to be offensive or anything, or maybe I am getting
it wrong, so please correct me my mistakes, after all we are here to
learn. I see you apply very good C&F with unusual beautiful women who
always are approached, and it works wonders because you always outcome
as the "one who gets it" (really cool yeah)

However, call me a weirdo, but the women I am interested RARELY OR
NEVER GET APPROACHED. I really don't care on a woman's looks (obviosly
I don't want an Uglu Betty XD), but I only start to like a women after
sometime I meet her. I like a woman not by her looks, but by her way
of being, her attitude, the way she makes me feel.

Most of the time they are not the "10's or 9's" many guys looks for,
in fact I usually the first guy who ever likes them. And I have seen
that, while being "wussy" totally pisses off the relationship, using
too much C&F becomes "annoying" to them, and usually causes them to
"give me up or end in the friends zone".

Let's get a case:

One day I noticed I started liking this cute girl that once took
classes (one year younger), so I decided to give my try. I started
talking to her and being "nice but confident", and she responded very
sweet. In fact, one day she was totally pissed off because she failed
school, I sent her a letter to cheer her up and she loved it! Man, the
next days we had great conversations, and even one night I rushed she
said me "good night my superhero". The next time she was kind nervous
around me (attraction in action xD). She only had one boyfriend her
whole life, so she wasn't used to being approached. However things
didn't go more since I started university and she got to another
school, and well, I really don't have much time for girlfriends now,
so I told her just frienship.

On the other hand, one year earlier I started flirting with this cute
girl after I started noticing she was very inteligent and "different"
(in the good sense you know). She was kinda nerdy, but very nice and
confortable to speak. Being C&F was good for creating tension, but
when I started busting "her balls" she got totally unconfortable and
simply lost interest in me. Again, I think I was the second guy who
ever approached her.

I won't generalize things, but I'll appreciate your opinions here on some better
way to use C&F for us guys who like "unusually approached women".

 

[The_Crack]

ist definitely true man.
There are girls who appreciate ****y funny more than others, you just gotta find that medium.
There are some 9's and 10's who hate guys who bust their balls and there are ones who love it, likewise with 6's and 7's. Every girl is different!!
You gotta tailor your game with her personality, while keeping who you are the same.

For some girls, a little bit of sweetness will tick all their buttons whereas with others it might make them spew up. Some might like a bit of roughness in bed and some may not.. you got to figure this out by yourself depending on how they react to what you do.

and i know exactly the girls your talking about. You gotta twist up your game in order to snatch on of these.
Good luck

 

[NorwegianDJ]

I also doubt that you're different than other people.
Contrary to you, I don't 'like' a girl when I approach her. I don't have any feelings for her. She turns me on, that's different. That's interest. I may then later develop feelings for her.

 

[LearningSlowly]

I also doubt that you're different than other people.
Contrary to you, I don't 'like' a girl when I approach her. I don't have any feelings for her. She turns me on, that's different. That's interest. I may then later develop feelings for her.

Well said.
When I think about girls, especially for a long term relationship, I have two basic criteria. Factors that are external to the relationship, and ones that are internal. External ones would be how cute our facebook pictures look, the social proof I get from dating her, etc. Internal would be how well we get along, how well our spiritual values line up, how attracted I am to her sexually. Good looks contribute to both of those categories, so I try to hit it off with good looking girls.

When you're choosing these girls that haven't been selected by guys before, are you choosing them because it's easier? Are they the ones that respond well because you're giving them a lot of attention that they aren't used to having?

I can't answer these questions, and I can't judge you for the answers, but consider them.