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Don Juan
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I'm having trouble getting over my one-itis of 3 months. I won't go into loads of detail, just know that we were seeing each other for a month or so and having regular sex. Then she blew me off saying that she wasn't interested in a relationship right now as she had just got out of a 2 year one. Obviously, I know the deal here: she was just after a bit of fun after being stuck in what was probably a pretty claustophobic relationship. After a lot of AFC bull**** on my part, I eventually NEXTED her. So realizing I went wrong and completing messed up because of AFC bull**** is not the issue here.
I know the cure to this problem is to Spin More Plates. But here's the unusual symptoms of this particular one-itis: I seem to be stuck on some of the stories she told me about her experiences years ago. I read these one-itis posts from guys who show the normal one-itis afflictions. I have those typical one-itis afflictions, but I also can't get over some of the stories she told me whilst we were together; stories about her drug life in the past, as well as past relationships.
She has had more experience than me in both these areas. I've always placed great emphasis on experience and I see it as a huge barometer to gauge success in life, even negative life experience like the stuff in her stories. So I've just become almost obsessed with these stories that I remember her telling me months ago; I keep replaying them in my head and trying to figure out the chronology of things and whether it was all true, etc.
I mean, I keep over-analysing all of our moments together, but for some reason these "life experience" stories (that outweigh my experience in those areas, even though she obviously told them to me as negative parts of her past and she was in no way trying to glorify them) seem to be on my mind more than anything else when I think about her. Why is this? Is there some psychological affliction linked here? I'm obsessed with my one-itis' past experiences. This goes beyond just retroactive jealousy, as the drugs stuff is a separate issue. I know I need to get past this one-itis situation and 'go **** 10 other women' or whatever, but I can't see why I'm so stuck on these stories she told me about her past. Sometimes I even think I need to experiment with the type of drugs she experiemented with in order to break the cycle of one-itis. Is this some psychological affliction that goes beyond just a run-of-the-mill case of one-itis? How can I get past this?
I know the cure to this problem is to Spin More Plates. But here's the unusual symptoms of this particular one-itis: I seem to be stuck on some of the stories she told me about her experiences years ago. I read these one-itis posts from guys who show the normal one-itis afflictions. I have those typical one-itis afflictions, but I also can't get over some of the stories she told me whilst we were together; stories about her drug life in the past, as well as past relationships.
She has had more experience than me in both these areas. I've always placed great emphasis on experience and I see it as a huge barometer to gauge success in life, even negative life experience like the stuff in her stories. So I've just become almost obsessed with these stories that I remember her telling me months ago; I keep replaying them in my head and trying to figure out the chronology of things and whether it was all true, etc.
I mean, I keep over-analysing all of our moments together, but for some reason these "life experience" stories (that outweigh my experience in those areas, even though she obviously told them to me as negative parts of her past and she was in no way trying to glorify them) seem to be on my mind more than anything else when I think about her. Why is this? Is there some psychological affliction linked here? I'm obsessed with my one-itis' past experiences. This goes beyond just retroactive jealousy, as the drugs stuff is a separate issue. I know I need to get past this one-itis situation and 'go **** 10 other women' or whatever, but I can't see why I'm so stuck on these stories she told me about her past. Sometimes I even think I need to experiment with the type of drugs she experiemented with in order to break the cycle of one-itis. Is this some psychological affliction that goes beyond just a run-of-the-mill case of one-itis? How can I get past this?