"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Unique insecurity that holds me back

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Everyone says, "Accept yourself and the way you look, uglier people have much better looking women." The thing is, i have something different.

I have had severe eczema since i was born, and now it is very visible. This dreaded skin disorder has been affecting my confidence throughout my whole life. It causes my face to have a constant rash, and my face pores are as big as a pencil dot marked on a piece of paper. I am a very athletic individual with a toned body and a good looking face, but i never can show it because of the eczema on my body. It has caused me to quit football, and be inconsistent on my workouts.

I'm just struggling on accepting my awful skin, and being comfortable. It's a different feeling when you literally can't feel great in your own skin.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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horaholic

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I know a guy who's face is severely burned, and he pulls pvssy. Of course his opener is "Yeah, I was at that Great White show" He's the most obnoxious person I've ever met.

Seriously, that sucks. Theres gotta be something out there you can do to improve your skin. Search the web. Get some self esteem hypnosis.

I just googled eczema cures, and a TON of shyt popped up. Something has gotta work, or at least reduce it.
 

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There is no found cure for eczema yet, only products that treat symptoms. Thanks for the help horaholic, but in desperation, i have googled for eczema cures many times lol.

This is of how my face looks similar too :

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://whatdoeseczemalooklike.info/eczema4.jpg&imgrefurl=http://whatdoeseczemalooklike.info/&h=409&w=350&sz=32&hl=en&start=61&um=1&tbnid=HY_P9U17mhUEFM:&tbnh=125&tbnw=107&prev=/images%3Fq%3Deczema%26start%3D54%26ndsp%3D18%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:eek:fficial%26sa%3DN

What section is this supposed to be in? DJ Discussion?
 

i am me

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i got eczema too man but i dont get it on my face and its not that severe...i used to have big blotches of nasty looking skin on my arms and legs when i was in elementary school, but now I barely have anything at all so maybe i can help...do u scratch or even touch your face at all during the day? do u scratch at night impulsively? also, are u using any kinds of products to treat your eczema?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have a similar problem. I have red and swollen skin just on my face. I eat healthier nowadays and that has helped it. Some days it looks very good.

There are certain creams you can use for ecezma and also if I was you I'd try reading up on how or if diet effects it. It could be a food triggering it.
 

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PrinceKong said:
Everyone says, "Accept yourself and the way you look, uglier people have much better looking women." The thing is, i have something different.

I have had severe eczema since i was born, and now it is very visible. This dreaded skin disorder has been affecting my confidence throughout my whole life. It causes my face to have a constant rash, and my face pores are as big as a pencil dot marked on a piece of paper. I am a very athletic individual with a toned body and a good looking face, but i never can show it because of the eczema on my body. It has caused me to quit football, and be inconsistent on my workouts.

I'm just struggling on accepting my awful skin, and being comfortable. It's a different feeling when you literally can't feel great in your own skin.
I really feel for you man....especially when you're in shape, young and have things going for you (something like this can make any guy feel insecure). I know that there are other guys out there with far worse problems than what you have but try to DO WHATEVER YOU CAN AS FAR AS TREATMENT to nip this thing down
 

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I constantly touch my face, even though it gets irritated very easily. And yes, i scratch the most when i am in bed.

I am allergic to all nuts and sea food. I used to be allergic to dairy, chocolate, and red food coloring. When i was young, i took an allergy test, so that would've found out what foods i should ignore. Currently, i still stay away from nuts and sea food all the time.

I haven't yet tried changing my diet to see if there is something that is triggering my eczema. How would i be able to do this?

Thanks kingbeef. My next option is going to be acupuncture, my employer had a brother who was in the same position as me, and did acupuncture. He got many results. It looks very promising, but I have to save up money to afford it.

But i don't let eczema get the best of me. I still have lots of genuine friends from the cool side, and to the non-cool side. I still act like normal when i talk to people i know. It only gets me when i talk to someone that is not close to me, which is why i am having trouble with my don juan journey.
 

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Have you seen a dermatalogist? I used to have it back in the day, but I got some of this cream stuff and it cleared it right up after a couple weeks. You just have to apply it consistently. When I had it, it would often be fine one week and then the next day, my arms and legs would be just red a horrible. I feel for you, dude.
 

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The apple cider vinegar and baking soda didnt do anything? These people are claiming big results in a matter of hours. If you haven't tried it, why don't you do it for three days and post your results.

This is a completely different ailment, but ACV worked wonders for my acid reflux, after medical prescriptions and over the counter products didnt. It works quicker, and it happens far less. Dont knock the home remedies till you try them.
You didnt say if you tried them, so I'm assuming you didnt. If you've tried them, then I apologize.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't have eczema but I do have pretty bad acne so I at least experience the same kind of insecurity with skin issues. This is all I've been able to do to get over it. You have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and BE HAPPY that your you. It's very difficult if your already in the habit of hating on yourself but you can do it. You need to look at yourself and think and tell yourself how good your body looks or how good of a catch you are and just think about your dreams and how your going to accomplish them. You just gotta be able to have that smirk and happiness come off on your face while staring down a girl and they wont think much of your skin. They really care only if your really care. I know it's gonna be tough man but be sure of yourself . Your you and being you is the best thing ever! You just GOTTA know that...

Don't focus on certain parts of yourself. You need to look at yourself as the whole and be able to let yourself feel attractive. It's hard to put into words this kind of change of heart but I hope you can do it man.
 

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my friend had eczema, then he went on a trip to visit family in hong kong and said his skin was "perfect" there, something about the humid weather. maybe try putting a humidifier in your room or move to another environment(assuming this is really bothering you that much)
 

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I have been to many, many dermatologists. But they always give me steroid creams/ointments. They help, but i would use it so much, that i would suffer from the excessive use of steroids. Plus i wouldn't be able to be in the sun if i have applied the steroids, it would cause my skin to discolor even more.

I haven't really tried to do the ACV yet, I will take your word for it, and try it out when i have time. I'll post the result and progress also.

Thanks for the advice The Gamer, sometimes i could look past it and accept it. Then most of the time, it just gets to me.

I live in Houston, it gets really humid and hot down here. I actually thought it would make it worse, because my own sweat is a big irritant for my skin.

Geez, it's really hard to talk about this, and not sound like an episode of oprah or something :D
 

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first thing u gotta do is make an effort to not touch your face at all, except to apply cream or wash your face or something. easier said than done but u really gotta stop

then only apply the cream at night or when ur home alone. that way u wont be in the sun and u wont hav a bunch of shiny stuff on ur face when u go out
 

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Give the ACV a try. Do what that link says for a few days. Drug companies want you on THEIR chemicals, when sometimes at home stuff works better. Give the at home remedies a fair chance, then report back to us. I'm interested in the results. I don't think people would lie about a non-profit method. Good luck anyway.

Also, and I know nothing about this, but I was TOLD that stand up tanning beds help with eczema. Who knows, I haven't looked into it or anything, but I heard that certain tanning bulbs kill the bacteria and fungus associated with eczema. Something out there has to work, but you need to really try them all. If your skin clears up from something, your confidence should skyrocket.

Please read the testimonials, and follow the advice on the link I gave you for the ACV, and keep us updated.

This should probably be on the health and fitness, but you will get more responses on this or other threads, so fvck it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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