just discovered this website urban monk an article on understanding your ego. I have realized a lot from this article, think you guys should read it
What your ego is and how to stop it from obscuring your inner peace and unconditional love
still I find my self thinking how do you differentiate controlling your ego and being a pushover. The article tries to explain this staying, if something is hurting you then get out or do something about it, but its also saying you should recognize these painful thoughts and let them pass. With that said, lets say your ex contacts you and many painful memories rush to your head, now do you let those memories pass as that is your ego playing its role, or because it hurts you do you get out or do something about it, i.e. dont talk to your ex, or tell her to F off and lose a friend?
or your ex cheats on you, your hurt so you get out, you let the bad thoughts go and she wants to hang out again and you have a fun time, do you continue that? lets say you have sex, do you continue that? or since you were hurt from that your out forever?
also what makes people naturally more in control of their egos than others, I know people exactly like this, they dont seem to have a care in the world, they will punch you out and help you back up. chemical balance? life experience and conditioning?
I keep saying i feel like I have one thing holding me back, last time it was "holding grudges" now after reading this I understand its my ego thats actually the cause of the problem... I do put more focus into being right, than being happy.
What your ego is and how to stop it from obscuring your inner peace and unconditional love
still I find my self thinking how do you differentiate controlling your ego and being a pushover. The article tries to explain this staying, if something is hurting you then get out or do something about it, but its also saying you should recognize these painful thoughts and let them pass. With that said, lets say your ex contacts you and many painful memories rush to your head, now do you let those memories pass as that is your ego playing its role, or because it hurts you do you get out or do something about it, i.e. dont talk to your ex, or tell her to F off and lose a friend?
or your ex cheats on you, your hurt so you get out, you let the bad thoughts go and she wants to hang out again and you have a fun time, do you continue that? lets say you have sex, do you continue that? or since you were hurt from that your out forever?
also what makes people naturally more in control of their egos than others, I know people exactly like this, they dont seem to have a care in the world, they will punch you out and help you back up. chemical balance? life experience and conditioning?
I keep saying i feel like I have one thing holding me back, last time it was "holding grudges" now after reading this I understand its my ego thats actually the cause of the problem... I do put more focus into being right, than being happy.