Understanding Intergender Currency

[TheException]

Im hoping this post will serve more as a "general guideline" rather than be some overthought, deep, and philosophical topic.....alas I can get carried away quite easily and this very well may end up a novel.....*fingers crossed*

Men and women are VERY different and a lot of the problems created in sexual situations and dealing with women, stem from either the ignorance of how women "work" or the misunderstanding/denial of how they work. Women are emotional beings and need to be communicated to on an EMOTIONAL level. You dont pound logic into a woman......you pump emotion into her. Doubt that? When was the last time you could have a reasonable level headed debate with a woman? lol.........never is the correct answer. Its why women like Hillary Clinton cant handle the pressure of politics(in my opinion of course)

So lets talk about how each gender DOES communicate and how we can leverage that.

WOMEN
CURRENCY: SEX

A real no brainer......but women "pay" for things with sex. Its their way of "catching" a real man. Sex is the ultimate barometer of health in any type of relationship......if the sex is in decline......so is the relationship. A woman can act all sorts of "cold" and "distant" but if she still wants to fvck you.....the relationship can be saved. On the other hand....a woman could be nice, caring, even loving......but if she is repulsed by you and sleeps with you once every fortnight......you're fvcked and so is the relationship.

MEN
CURRENCY: ATTENTION

Thats right......ATTENTION is the currency of men. Not provisions, not our big d1cks, not our mindsets.......attention. Comes in various forms but women all understand attention....its a language they can understand because its rooted in emotion.

This is exactly the reason why we men should NEVER USE WORDS to express something to a woman. Doesnt matter if its expressing love, disappointment, approval, etc. Dont use words......instead SHOW her.

Love = Small random gifts > Constant "I Love You"s

Disappointment = Withdrawing Attention > Picking A Fight with her or TELLING her that "she is a bad bad girl".

Approval = Rewarding her with more hangout time for doing something good > flowers

Boundaries = Withdrawing attention/refusing exclusivity > Telling women what you dont find acceptable behavior.




Women are not as stupid and fickle as most men on here would claim.....they are VERY intuitive and are much better at picking up subtle clues through body language than men can. Use this as a guideline if you are confused on what action to take......simply figure out how to use your attention to your utmost benefit and watch her currency....SEX......skyrocket.

 

[skinnyguy]

Well you say women are not that stupid, but it appears that they are easily manipulated through these sorts of actions. Am I correct?

 

[YAboi]

great thread

 

[TheException]

Well you say women are not that stupid, but it appears that they are easily manipulated through these sorts of actions. Am I correct?

"Not stupid" as in......they are not oblivious to covert communication. They understand when a guy withdraws attention, its because he "disapproves" of her action. This gets communicated without the guy actually saying it. Its the supreme way to communicate to a woman.

 

[MtnMan]

excellent post!

I agree 100% with the intuitive side of women. They are not logical, often they appear to be idiots to the frustrated man.

Closer attention will reveal that women are extremely intuitive and sensitive in a way that most men could never dream to be.

This is why you must be genuinely happy and interested in your life if you expect women to be interested in you. They can see right through false happiness and confidence.

When I first got back into dating, I used to feel somewhat strange about my living situation. I live way out in the woods in a log cabin and basically spend a lot of my spare time playing in the woods, building things, cutting firewood. I used to have an apologetic attitude when talking to women, since most of them live in apartments in town.

Recently I started speaking very positively of my living situation. Women always would **** test me on why I would buy a house out in the sticks....to pass that test all I had to do what answer: "because its fvcking awesome out there, and I love it". I do truly love it, and they can sense that. I have had several girls want to travel out to my place and check it out, and they love it!

Women know when you are sincere, and when you are B.S.ing. Do not underestimate this quality. This is why everyone here preaches the importance of being happy in your life WITHOUT women before trying to get women.

 

[TheException]

Most of what you wrote is perfect for plate spinning, not necessarily for relationships. Still a good post, however there are some important concepts you missed here.


For the non-plates, or more particular, for those who are about to enter into a relationship, the equation changes drastically.

• Men value sex, that is the currency with which women pay men they are interested in. <-----You have this one correct.
• However, women value COMMITMENT, that is the currency with which men pay women they are interested in. It isn't just about your attention anymore.

I dont think the equation changes as dramatically as you do apparently....

I actually think "commitment" falls under the broad umbrella of "attention".

Likewise for men who do not put an explicit price on their commitment. Women often make men jump through hoops for sex. Do you really think you can't get a women to do the same for commitment?


Additionally, setting boundaries has nothing to do with logic versus emotion. Committing is a one-time event. The one-time where you clearly state the terms of your giving up all other options but her.

Lets not beat the dead horse......time to let this issue go pal. When you find yourself "telling women" not to do this or that in order to be with you......your fighting a losing battle. Why even tell her? Why not just keep your boundaries to yourself and dump her when she does something "inappropriate". Verbally telling a woman about a boundary is an ultimatum. Period.

Ultimatum = position of weakness

 

[JoeMarron]

Ah damn. I wish I hadn't repped one of your earlier posts, because this one deserves it so much more.

I will admit to having rarely seen an ultimatum as being enacted from a position of strength so i learnt something new from this perspective. Awesome post mate.

Truth. I was in the middle of smh'ing at this fossilized horse being brought up again then I read that post. Damn good stuff.

I seriously couldn't believe it when I found out.

That's what women think about ultimatums. That's also what women think about men that don't set them. They are men "Without power" to dictate terms.

Now, 90% of women in my GF's position ABSOLUTELY would have tried to get me to budge by shaming me and calling me "insecure" and "controlling"...but only to my face. My own mother had this same gut, instinctual reaction when I told her about my ultimatum. Eventually though she saw my point.

I would've laughed my ass of when I found out. Her friends may be lecturing her on getting more power but deep down they know damn well they aren't satisfied with their spineless men.

To get on topic,

A real no brainer......but women "pay" for things with sex. Its their way of "catching" a real man. Sex is the ultimate barometer of health in any type of relationship......if the sex is in decline......so is the relationship. A woman can act all sorts of "cold" and "distant" but if she still wants to fvck you.....the relationship can be saved. On the other hand....a woman could be nice, caring, even loving......but if she is repulsed by you and sleeps with you once every fortnight......you're fvcked and so is the relationship.

People all the time are gushing about how amazing their relationship is except the sex. Bullsh!t. A great relationship without sex is a close friendship.