"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Undercover High

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I watched an episode of this show called Undercover High on A&E last week. The premise is they take some youthful looking adults and put them in high school to see what teens are up to these days, and what issues they are facing. Fairly boring stuff really, but a couple of things struck me as interesting, including some gender dynamics.

First off, they show how kids are addicted to their phones and social media. Half the kids are playing with their phones in class. As one girl says "They're not allowed, but we don't care".

Then there is this girl named Lina. She's decent looking, kind of average attractive I would say. She and her brother were new in the school. She made friends more quickly than her brother, and she was quickly being friended on social media. A lot of boys started messaging her the first night, and you can see how girls are bombarded with guys trying to get into their pants. I mean tons of guys were trying to pick her up. Even a statement as seemingly innocuous as "you're pretty" takes on a creepy vibe in this context.

The boys started to talk about who was going to be able to "hit that" first, they talked about taking bets on it, and the show made a big deal about someone saying he was going to rape her. It didn't appear that he was serious, but with all the sexual assault accusations in the news these days, that was a big moment for them.

They showed a quick scene where one guy said "I have three girlfriends" and the guy next to him said "I have four girlfriends". This kind of sickened me, not because they were spinning plates, but because they were using the number of girls they had as something to brag about and give themselves status. Like their self worth was tied to how they did with females.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I watched an episode of this show called Undercover High on A&E last week. The premise is they take some youthful looking adults and put them in high school to see what teens are up to these days, and what issues they are facing. Fairly boring stuff really, but a couple of things struck me as interesting, including some gender dynamics.

First off, they show how kids are addicted to their phones and social media. Half the kids are playing with their phones in class. As one girl says "They're not allowed, but we don't care".

Then there is this girl named Lina. She's decent looking, kind of average attractive I would say. She and her brother were new in the school. She made friends more quickly than her brother, and she was quickly being friended on social media. A lot of boys started messaging her the first night, and you can see how girls are bombarded with guys trying to get into their pants. I mean tons of guys were trying to pick her up. Even a statement as seemingly innocuous as "you're pretty" takes on a creepy vibe in this context.

The boys started to talk about who was going to be able to "hit that" first, they talked about taking bets on it, and the show made a big deal about someone saying he was going to rape her. It didn't appear that he was serious, but with all the sexual assault accusations in the news these days, that was a big moment for them.

They showed a quick scene where one guy said "I have three girlfriends" and the guy next to him said "I have four girlfriends". This kind of sickened me, not because they were spinning plates, but because they were using the number of girls they had as something to brag about and give themselves status. Like their self worth was tied to how they did with females.
Sounds like highschool hasn't changed much since my days, other than the technology.

A bunch of kids worried about what everyone else thinks.
 

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Sounds like highschool hasn't changed much since my days, other than the technology.
There seemed to be a lot of thug swagger talk from the guys.
Back when I was in high school, it was more about smoking cigarettes, rock and roll, getting alcohol, and stoners.

But it was interesting to see how a fairly harmless come on from a guy could be seen as creepy or threatening from the perspective of an average girl.
 
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