"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Twos and Threes: a half rant

zekko

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I just happened to notice that in the last couple of months 2s and 3s have been swarming around me like flies. My first thought about this has been "can this be some sort of bad sign, that I'm attracting this kind of woman?". I find this to be somewhat annoying, but I like to treat everyone with respect, so I don't want to mistreat them to get rid of them. Mind you, I happily live with my LTR of many years, so I'm not looking for anything, although technically I'm not actually married.

I was thinking that maybe since I am COMPLETELY indifferent to these 2s and 3s, I am more totally relaxed around them and thus more fully able to be myself, which they find attractive. I notice that being around beautiful women make me a shade more nervous, which is not good.

Then of course the value difference alone attracts them.

Then I was concerned that all these 2s and 3s buzzing around were serving to block off the more attractive women and keeping them from bonding with me. But then it hit me:
The real major reason I am attracting all these 2s and 3s is that at this point, all of the really attractive women in my life are already taken. They are all involved in their own stable relationships, so they don't have the time, interest, or desperation to be crushing on me. These other poor gals though, they have no relationships on their horizon, so they have nothing better to do than try to feed off of me.

I just had a number of attractive girls move out of my life. Probably more will be on the way shortly. I get the impression I am in some sort of transitional phase. Have you ever heard of the idea that your life changes every seven years? Note that my age is divisible by seven.

And do you think that having a bunch of 2s and 3s hovering around you is a bad sign? Would women view this as a turnoff, or as a positive thing?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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of course its a bad sign your putting out vibes that its ok for these skeezers to buzz around you like flys to fecal matter. birds of a feather flock together i suggest you make it known you dont want them to be within a 10 foot radius of your person.
 

zekko

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Julian said:
of course its a bad sign your putting out vibes that its ok for these skeezers to buzz around you like flys to fecal matter. birds of a feather flock together i suggest you make it known you dont want them to be within a 10 foot radius of your person.
To do this sounds like it would be acting stuck up. I'm not really comfortable with not talking to people just because they're not good looking enough. But I am concerned that they might be cramping my style. I'd like to hear some more opinions.

Perhaps I should make it clear also I am not HANGING OUT with these girls. I just see them in my everyday life, at work and such. Lately they seem to be flocking to me.
 

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Are you ugly?

I would think only 2's and 3's would buzz around other ugly guys.
 

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Belmar2009 said:
Are you ugly?
I would think only 2's and 3's would buzz around other ugly guys.
Nah, I'm decent looking. Not drop dead gorgeous by any means, but not a troll either. I've never gone out with anything less than a 6, even at the height of my ignorance with women.

If you'll note my age, you'll see I'm an older fellow. Maybe they are deluding themselves into thinking they have a shot with me just because I'm older. Not the case :) Anyway, as I stated before, I'm not looking, I'm in a LTR.

I'm still wondering about the basic question though:
Supposedly if you are seen with women, if it is seen that women like you, then other women will accept you also. That's a basic seduction principle, the principle of preselection. But when you're dealing with low end product like the 2s and 3s, does that still apply, or does it actually have the reverse effect?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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