Turning it on...

[squirrels]

It's funny...when I first started "running game", I RARELY, if EVER, got a girl's number only to have her flake out. They almost ALWAYS answered, or called back. Most of the time, I ended up hooking up with them.

Now...it seems like I constantly get flaky behavior. And I think I know why that is...lately I just haven't been "turning it on" with the ladies.

Before, I used to really let the sexuality loose. Kino, eye contact...it was rare I didn't make it to at LEAST first base on a first date. Lately, though, I've been holding it back a little, trying to establish rapport first to angle more toward a short-term dating type of relationship. And my results have been less-than-expected...a lot of flakes, a lot of girls breaking dates, not answering calls, not returning calls, returning calls but constantly having excuses not to get together, delays, etc...

It baffles me as to why, but I'm starting to think that the quickest way to a woman's heart is through her pvssy. I mean, it's like sexuality is the only sure-fire way I've been able to exploit so far to anchor myself in a girl's mind. If she's flaking, it's because I haven't created enough of an impression to separate myself from other guys she may have met recently.

I'm sure there are other methods...does anyone have any idea of other ways to project a strong impression on a girl to prevent flaking? Sometimes the sexual approach is TOO powerful...creating clinginess or attracting the wrong kind of women.

 

[Vulpine]

Revisit some of the attraction building info on here. If chicks are flaking, their IL's are either dropping, or just not there to begin with. Or, your "game w/o sex" is creating some sort of air of neediness. Like, you are giving them the frame that you are chasing and therefore appearing needy.

I'm grasping at straws here, because I don't know. Your post is sort of vague on the actual "how's and why's" details. It may be that you are over-analyzing. There are hundreds of posts illustrating chicks' flakey behavior. Chicks are flakey unless...

Revisit some of the attraction building info on here. WMS is a good bathroom reader.

 

[whistler]

I think a key here is that if she puts out quickly, she can adopt one of two alternatives:

1. Accept that she was easy.

or

2. Assume that there was some genuine chemistry between you.

She'll go for 2 of course.

In other words, early sex is a lock-in. *

Without the sex, it's realtively easy to blow you off.


* If she can blame it on alcohol, she has a third out.

 

[wayword]

I think a key here is that if she puts out quickly, she can adopt one of two alternatives:

1. Accept that she was easy.

or

2. Assume that there was some genuine chemistry between you.

She'll go for 2 of course.

In other words, early sex is a lock-in. *

Without the sex, it's realtively easy to blow you off.


* If she can blame it on alcohol, she has a third out.

Lol, "chick logic" can be your best friend... :cheer:

This actually makes...a whole lotta sense...about how women react to having sex. It's more about how they feel about themselves than their partner, or the act itself. After which they will then rationalize their emotion with some convoluted "logic."