Hey everyone,
I just registered here, although I've been sneaking around and reading some of the stuff that's been discussed here lately. Since I'm new here I'll try to give you a short recap of myself and my background, and then I'll get to my point.
I'm currently 26 years old, living in Sweden. Externally I've got near everything going for me that one could ask for. I'm a smart guy - I don't know much about anything, but I know little about almost everything. I run my own company, which is really starting to generate some success. I have a great apartment, nice car etc etc. I got a lot of friends, I'm a really likeable guy that doesn't (seem to) worry too much about things. I can get along with just about anyone. Some of my friends have also told me things like "Man I wish I was you".
Lately I've also gained a lot of female friends, which I enjoy since there is so much to learn from them. I also work as a DJ (the guy who plays records kind of DJ, not Don Juan
). Having aprox 10 gigs a month in this small city, most of the people around here know me, if not personally, by looks - which I've come to notice has it's pros and cons (more about that later).
I'm by no means a Bard Pitt, George Clooney or Johnny Deep when it comes to my looks. I'm a pretty average looking guy. I was teased for my big ears when I was a kid which haunted for a lot of years, and I'm also pretty skinny, but none of that really matters to me now. Even though I wouldn't mind gaining 20 pounds I'm pretty comfortable the way I am.
I got into seduction a couple of years ago, I think I read an article on Askmen.com that was written by David DeAngelo, and that's where I found out about Double your dating. I've been studying his and a lot of others' materials over the past few years, but I've never been consistent with practicing any of it, and that's probably why I haven't had that much of a success.
(are you still with me?)
When it comes to women I'm very selective (not consciously). I don't mind hot babes, but women who I get really attracted to (on all levels, not just sexully) don't come around that often, which I think automatically puts me into scarcity mentality. If I was more easily attracted to them, maybe I wouldn't be so afraid of loosing them, but when they don't come around that often they feel pretty scarce. Initially, I get attracted easily to a lot of girls, judged by their looks, but as soon as I get to know them my attraction flies out of the window. Either they are shallow, childish (in a negative sense), mentally instable etc etc.
And my absolute biggest issue is that I CAN'T DECIFER THEIR GOD DAMN SIGNALS! Wait - that's a lie - I can't even see them! Countless and countless times I've had friends telling me "Are you stupid/gay?! She wanted you!", while I'm just thinking they were being nice, and therefor I never made a move. I have no problems what so ever reading signals when other women show interest in or hit on other men, but when it comes to me, it's like I get both blind and deaf. I don't know if it was Style that was called Houdini for his extraordinary skills of unconsciously rejecting women because he didn't know they were hitting on him - I'm just like that.
Now, I can not emphasize enough that I'm not after getting laid countless times. I'm not seeking to boost my ego in that sense - but not being able to pick up these signals from all the women also counts for a lot of missed opportunities with a lot of potentially great women that I might be looking for.
And so now...there is...this...one...woman...who's come around that makes me melt, and I'm afraid she's made me try to rationalize the hell out everything. Everything she does. Everything I do. Everything we do.
We got acquainted maybe six months ago, but this past month we've been hanging around almost every day. She and I have a common friend from high school, and they invited me over for a party some time ago (not entirely out of the blue - she responded to my facebook status if my memory serves me right, and asked me to join them). One day, also thanks to Facebook, she and another friend of hers, invited themselves over to my office for a coffe. This was about a month ago, and since then we've been hanging around almost every single day. We'd have lunches, dinners or coffes together, watch a movie at home or go to the movies, etc etc. Sometimes by our selves, sometimes along with her friends (who by the way all approve of me and dig me - that I do pick up).
Our problem is that I don't know where we are. I don't know if we're in friend zone, of if she's waiting for me to make a move, but for each time we meet without me kissing her (yeah, that's right, I still haven't kissed her), the more our chances of getting anywhere will diminish. I'm always looking for a clear sign or a stupid hollywood moment to appear, but I know that's not going to happen.
Last couple of days I read the Book of Pook (great stuff) and I suddenly realized that everything that he mentions in the section of Womaneze and picking up her signals, she was firing away at me.
Keeping eye contact, smiling, dancing and making gestures in front of me, talking about other guys stalking her (a LOT of guys are into her, as well as a lot of my friends as I've come to notice), showing up her body (she literally changed clothes in front of me when I was at her place having some drinks with her and her friends last week), often mentioning her butt (which is her best part btw) etc etc.
Also, what Pook mentions a real Don Juan does, I've been doing a lot of, without even really realizing it. Especially with the eye contact, I don't have a problem starring into her eyes for a looong time. And she seems comfortable doing so too.
After I read the Book of Pook I was blown away. She must be into me, what other option is there? That really gave me a lot of confidence, but now I really haven't gotten the chance to see her the last couple of days. In a way it feels like she's shut me down a bit - she has mentioned that she's having her period, and I do forget that women have their emotions go berzerk for no apparent reason and that freaks me out. And allowing such a thing freak me out really freaks me out even more!
And this has led me to one another one of my huge limiting beliefs: as soon as she doesn't display the same level of interest, I go into thinking that she must nu be interested in me anymore. I mean, logically it seems impossible for her to lose interest in me (if there ever was one) in just over 2-3 days. Or is it?
Also - she doesn't kino, and she doesn't really respond to my kino either. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, forcing it a when I actually do it, and not doing it at the right moments. However, I'm sure I'm not overdoing it. I just high five her and give her a gentle hockey check now and then.
Some of my friends have also picked up some signals, and they keep asking me what the deal is about us - if we are giong out, etc. One night when I was deejaying she was hovering me all the time. I noticed a friend of mine hitting on her, which didn't really bother me at the time. If she's into him, there's not much I can do about it. The thing that puzzled my mind was however a conversation that another friend of mine (you see, I've got friends everywhere) overheard. When this guy was hitting on her, he asked if something was going on between us - to which she responded "No, he just wants to have sex".
POOK! What does that mean?! "He just wants to have sex"??
And this brings me to what I mentioned earlier, that almost everybody knows me, since I'm a DJ (disc jockey) and a pretty well known face in the night life around here. Since I can go out basically anywhere and always have someone to talk to, I'm afraid that some girls might see me as a player. Which I'm not. Since my last relationship (and my first one so far), that ended aprox 18 months ago, I've had sex only once and made out maybe twice. That really doesn't bother me, as much as the fact that I can't seize the opportunities with women, and in this case a really awesome one, when they appear right in front of me.
Wow. This is a long post. Kudos to anyone who made it all the way down.
Any thoughts?
I just registered here, although I've been sneaking around and reading some of the stuff that's been discussed here lately. Since I'm new here I'll try to give you a short recap of myself and my background, and then I'll get to my point.
I'm currently 26 years old, living in Sweden. Externally I've got near everything going for me that one could ask for. I'm a smart guy - I don't know much about anything, but I know little about almost everything. I run my own company, which is really starting to generate some success. I have a great apartment, nice car etc etc. I got a lot of friends, I'm a really likeable guy that doesn't (seem to) worry too much about things. I can get along with just about anyone. Some of my friends have also told me things like "Man I wish I was you".
Lately I've also gained a lot of female friends, which I enjoy since there is so much to learn from them. I also work as a DJ (the guy who plays records kind of DJ, not Don Juan
). Having aprox 10 gigs a month in this small city, most of the people around here know me, if not personally, by looks - which I've come to notice has it's pros and cons (more about that later).I'm by no means a Bard Pitt, George Clooney or Johnny Deep when it comes to my looks. I'm a pretty average looking guy. I was teased for my big ears when I was a kid which haunted for a lot of years, and I'm also pretty skinny, but none of that really matters to me now. Even though I wouldn't mind gaining 20 pounds I'm pretty comfortable the way I am.
I got into seduction a couple of years ago, I think I read an article on Askmen.com that was written by David DeAngelo, and that's where I found out about Double your dating. I've been studying his and a lot of others' materials over the past few years, but I've never been consistent with practicing any of it, and that's probably why I haven't had that much of a success.
(are you still with me?)
When it comes to women I'm very selective (not consciously). I don't mind hot babes, but women who I get really attracted to (on all levels, not just sexully) don't come around that often, which I think automatically puts me into scarcity mentality. If I was more easily attracted to them, maybe I wouldn't be so afraid of loosing them, but when they don't come around that often they feel pretty scarce. Initially, I get attracted easily to a lot of girls, judged by their looks, but as soon as I get to know them my attraction flies out of the window. Either they are shallow, childish (in a negative sense), mentally instable etc etc.
And my absolute biggest issue is that I CAN'T DECIFER THEIR GOD DAMN SIGNALS!
Wait - that's a lie - I can't even see them! Countless and countless times I've had friends telling me "Are you stupid/gay?! She wanted you!", while I'm just thinking they were being nice, and therefor I never made a move. I have no problems what so ever reading signals when other women show interest in or hit on other men, but when it comes to me, it's like I get both blind and deaf. I don't know if it was Style that was called Houdini for his extraordinary skills of unconsciously rejecting women because he didn't know they were hitting on him - I'm just like that.Now, I can not emphasize enough that I'm not after getting laid countless times. I'm not seeking to boost my ego in that sense - but not being able to pick up these signals from all the women also counts for a lot of missed opportunities with a lot of potentially great women that I might be looking for.
And so now...there is...this...one...woman...who's come around that makes me melt, and I'm afraid she's made me try to rationalize the hell out everything. Everything she does. Everything I do. Everything we do.
We got acquainted maybe six months ago, but this past month we've been hanging around almost every day. She and I have a common friend from high school, and they invited me over for a party some time ago (not entirely out of the blue - she responded to my facebook status if my memory serves me right, and asked me to join them). One day, also thanks to Facebook, she and another friend of hers, invited themselves over to my office for a coffe. This was about a month ago, and since then we've been hanging around almost every single day. We'd have lunches, dinners or coffes together, watch a movie at home or go to the movies, etc etc. Sometimes by our selves, sometimes along with her friends (who by the way all approve of me and dig me - that I do pick up).
Our problem is that I don't know where we are. I don't know if we're in friend zone, of if she's waiting for me to make a move, but for each time we meet without me kissing her (yeah, that's right, I still haven't kissed her), the more our chances of getting anywhere will diminish. I'm always looking for a clear sign or a stupid hollywood moment to appear, but I know that's not going to happen.
Last couple of days I read the Book of Pook (great stuff) and I suddenly realized that everything that he mentions in the section of Womaneze and picking up her signals, she was firing away at me.
Keeping eye contact, smiling, dancing and making gestures in front of me, talking about other guys stalking her (a LOT of guys are into her, as well as a lot of my friends as I've come to notice), showing up her body (she literally changed clothes in front of me when I was at her place having some drinks with her and her friends last week), often mentioning her butt (which is her best part btw
) etc etc.Also, what Pook mentions a real Don Juan does, I've been doing a lot of, without even really realizing it. Especially with the eye contact, I don't have a problem starring into her eyes for a looong time. And she seems comfortable doing so too.
After I read the Book of Pook I was blown away. She must be into me, what other option is there? That really gave me a lot of confidence, but now I really haven't gotten the chance to see her the last couple of days. In a way it feels like she's shut me down a bit - she has mentioned that she's having her period, and I do forget that women have their emotions go berzerk for no apparent reason and that freaks me out. And allowing such a thing freak me out really freaks me out even more!
And this has led me to one another one of my huge limiting beliefs: as soon as she doesn't display the same level of interest, I go into thinking that she must nu be interested in me anymore. I mean, logically it seems impossible for her to lose interest in me (if there ever was one) in just over 2-3 days. Or is it?
Also - she doesn't kino, and she doesn't really respond to my kino either. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, forcing it a when I actually do it, and not doing it at the right moments. However, I'm sure I'm not overdoing it. I just high five her and give her a gentle hockey check now and then.
Some of my friends have also picked up some signals, and they keep asking me what the deal is about us - if we are giong out, etc. One night when I was deejaying she was hovering me all the time. I noticed a friend of mine hitting on her, which didn't really bother me at the time. If she's into him, there's not much I can do about it. The thing that puzzled my mind was however a conversation that another friend of mine (you see, I've got friends everywhere) overheard. When this guy was hitting on her, he asked if something was going on between us - to which she responded "No, he just wants to have sex".
POOK! What does that mean?! "He just wants to have sex"??
And this brings me to what I mentioned earlier, that almost everybody knows me, since I'm a DJ (disc jockey) and a pretty well known face in the night life around here. Since I can go out basically anywhere and always have someone to talk to, I'm afraid that some girls might see me as a player. Which I'm not. Since my last relationship (and my first one so far), that ended aprox 18 months ago, I've had sex only once and made out maybe twice. That really doesn't bother me, as much as the fact that I can't seize the opportunities with women, and in this case a really awesome one, when they appear right in front of me.
Wow. This is a long post. Kudos to anyone who made it all the way down.
Any thoughts?