Trying to Decipher The Online Dating Puzzle

[gaspipe]

Ive been on several online sites as a backup to my regular sarging but have always stumbled on the same problem which perhaps anyone of you who has experience can help me understand. Why is it after a woman initiates, shows interest and makes an effort to know you, almost always flakes after you aknowledge her.

Perfect example: An attractive hot latin MILF sends me a wink on match. Not acting needy I send her an email several days later with my phone number. She calls the next day. We have a pleasant but short conversation and she lets me know that she is interested. Actually, I cut the conversation short leaving her wanting more. She tells me to call her soon. I call her a couple of days later. She texts me that she is working but will call me that same night. That was almost a week ago.

I get about 20 winks and 10 unsolicited emails a month on match alone. Out of those maybe 10 percent I would consider women I would date. But it seems that when I acknowledge the ones I like almost all of them flake.

Some constantly complliment me on my looks saying how good looking, even gorgeous I look, but they dont want to meet up. Some of them stalk me online that is I can get multiple views suggesting that they are keen to me but they dont follow through. I even think some of them masturbate with my image because they seem to view me mostly late at night multiple times!

But why dont they just agree to meet! Is it fear, insecurity?

I also have an active profile on POF. I am having similar issues there too.

Can any experienced online dating cowboy enlighten me on what if anything Im doing wrong?

 

[SecondHalf]

I don't even acknowledge winks.
For one, they can search on certain attributes, and wink at 100 guys inside of 20 minutes. Then sit back and watch the trained monkeys dance for them.
I suggest you put on your profile "NO WINKS PLEASE". It's amazing how many you still get which confirms that they don't even read about you.

I would say that about 1% of online women are worth your time.
Either they're pathetic, or no where near ready to be dating again.
I've heard so much ex-husband bashing on the first phone call.

Honestly, I just go into these things with the knowledge that most of these beeches are nuts and to not expect anything from them.

Play the numbers.

SH

 

[Stagger Lee]

Partly this flaky, ADD behavior of women on online dating sites is the nature of the beast. What with all the men contacting them they can't focus on any one man for any length of time. It seems to me you have the hardest part taken care of, being good enough looking to attract women online.

Your problem seems to be closing. There's not enough detail of how you go about it to really make suggestions. In general you have to work fast. You need your logistic taking care of, eg., a meeting place that you like to meet up with all the women you have lined up. Are you building a bridge to find out their availability? Are you saying something like, "Hey you want meet up.." and then working out the plan? Usually when i do that the woman tells me days time she's available. What is exactly happening when you pitch the meet up?

 

[mrRuckus]

When I get winks I just bust on them for being too lazy to write an email.

 

[pdx1138]

Are you saying something like, "Hey you want meet up.." and then working out the plan? Usually when i do that the woman tells me days time she's available. What is exactly happening when you pitch the meet up?

THIS.

Whenever I get a conversation going in an online dating messaging system, I always initiate a meet up, coffee or lunch by the third communication.

I've always been able to meet up with them at that point.

It seems like a lot of guys wait longer and keep chit chatting before doing this.

I'm either meeting them or moving to the next one within 2 weeks of first contacting them.


something I noticed as of this year with 6 different women.

I send a msg.

they wait 3-7 days to reply, I reply back with an equal delay, they begin to send msg's sooner, like 2 days or next day,
then I do the same eventually leading to my third message where I ask them out.

last year I would get replies immediately next day. but would still delay a day. curious observation.

This might be obvious but I found not immediately replying anytime i receive a msg AND asking them out by the third
msg yields 100% success in meeting them in person if they reply to my first msg.

hope that helps.

 

[Casslehoff]

You take too long. Girls lose interest quickly. You're fear of looking needy is hurting your freaking game.
She probably has another guy ramming that ass right now. And that must of set things up FAST!

but no you , you want to wait days and days ...for what though? oh because you don't want to look NEEDY!
* face palm *