Trying to cross the intial bridge

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

nightwalker75

Don Juan

Apr 16, 2024

When I go out to the bank there’s always a cute teller girl there. I find her attractive and I also believe that she finds me attractive I like her attention she likes mines we always talk and she always laugh a lot when I’m there I notice her watching me intently. And I’ve made direct notions of me find her attractive. I’m really knew to the dating game but idk. I am not sure if I am just woosingout or what…… I almost feel like she one side of bridge and I’m on another and there no crossing but I want to cross over but don’t know does anyone have any insight on this?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.