"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Trying to be a "DJ" over being a man makes you a SIMP.

DemFeeelz

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Yes. Trying to be a DJ over being a man makes you a SIMP.

Guys try to learn how to be a "DJ" in order to get as much puszy as they can or be "good" with women.

Most all will claim they don't put women on a pedestal yet at the same time will go to as many places as they can, trying to learn as much "game" to pick up women even if it means chasing strangers on the street in an effort to get laid.

How does this not make you a puszy pandering SIMP?

Thread after thread of "tips", "tricks", broken hearts, complaints, anger, frustration all about women.

Now you should soak up and retain good solid advice.

You should try to get someone whom you both click.

But at the same time in the effort to impress strangers on the internet, and validate yourselves through women by how many you can get, or what level you can get is still pvzsy pandering like a SIMP.

Have pride in yourself. Not expecting to get pride, confidence and validation through women.

You should be a man who can live with or without women.

Work on yourselves.

Otherwise keep on So Suave Simpin' when all you are doing is using a placebo of women to "fix" the real issues you have that are MUCH more important but ignored.

Some of you get it. Others are missing the bigger picture.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I agree that some people cross the line into pandering when it comes to trying to appeal to women, and there are plenty of contradictions. Guys seem willing, even eager, to completely change themselves into an entirely different person with an entirely differnet set of values, all to attract women.

If they are doing this to improve themselves, and they are going into a direction that they want to go, great. But to do all that, change your entire self, only to get women, that disturbs me. Guys who look down on the "pandering betas", while at the same time they are basically selling their real inner selves down the river so they can appeal to women, that seems like the height of hypocrisy. I can't think of anything that you could do more to pander.

On the other hand, if you are a man, and you have sexual desires, there's nothing wrong with embracing that unapologetically and going after what you want. Improving yourself as a man is good. But I think the line is if you turn yourself into someone you don't like just to appeal to women, then yeah, you're a simp..
 

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zekko said:
I agree that some people cross the line into pandering when it comes to trying to appeal to women, and there are plenty of contradictions. Guys seem willing, even eager, to completely change themselves into an entirely different person with an entirely differnet set of values, all to attract women.

If they are doing this to improve themselves, and they are going into a direction that they want to go, great. But to do all that, change your entire self, only to get women, that disturbs me. Guys who look down on the "pandering betas", while at the same time they are basically selling their real inner selves down the river so they can appeal to women, that seems like the height of hypocrisy. I can't think of anything that you could do more to pander.

On the other hand, if you are a man, and you have sexual desires, there's nothing wrong with embracing that unapologetically and going after what you want. Improving yourself as a man is good. But I think the line is if you turn yourself into someone you don't like just to appeal to women, then yeah, you're a simp..

That's what I'm saying.

Apparently the truth doesn't sit well with a few "DJs" who prefer to delude themselves that they aren't anything else but frustrated pandering SIMPS.

They like to dish it out but won't look in the mirror at their own hypocrisy.
 
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