"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Trust your silence

Mr. Personality

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So as most know, less is always more with women. Less is especially more after spending some time with the girl you’re currently having sex with.

So after spending a day, or a night with a woman , not reaching out for a couple days afterwards does wonders. If the experience was good, the woman will have to digest it and tell her friends or do whatever chicks do.

The time period immediately after hanging out is important because most guys will reach back out right away and emote to the woman how great it was how fun or whatever emotionally undisciplined men say.

Instead you should go silent. Let her imagination get going. Let her miss you. If the experience was good and you were on your game, sh be thinking about you. You as the man need to get busy right after. Get immediately busy if not already. Do not be a romantic hyping up how good the time you spent with her was.

Trust your silence and 9 times out of 10 she will reach back out to you and if she doesn’t then you’ve saved yourself time and mental energy.

Emotional discipline always pays off.
If each time you want to reach out and you don’t, you build that muscle of discipline and it gets easier not reaching out to where you don’t even think about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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