"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bare with me if you can master don juans I really need your help. Also anyone anyone who has experience in relationships.

Well if anyone knows me on this site hello again this is Jorge. I'm having a bit of relationship trouble and need help finding my bearings here. Okay, so my girl Regina and I have been dating on and off for nearly 3 years and when we were not dating from august to october I had this other girl Hayley possibly pregnant, which turns out she wasn't. So I had felt the need to tell her and she flipped ****, now here is where the problem truly lies:

We have communication problems to begin with and I accept the responsibility, I am a very obsessive and compulsive person sometimes, you know repetative in my words/actions in an agressive way, I think it to be from too many head injuries in football or just too many sports in general too much weight cutting IDK ect. hence we have trouble communicating, she thinks I'm hott, she's beautiful in my eyes although sometimes people say I'm better than her (bull****), I feel the need to hook up with other girls to boost my confidence for her, I've hooked up with just about 36 now, I'm pretty good with initial hookups, and am relentless my looks definately don't hurt. I don't know what to talk about sometimes I guess, life isn't a football game or a wrestling match either you just can't continually "aww" and love you have to learn how to relax with your lover, but I feel like I burn out easily if I'm not constantly winning her over which I'm pretty ****ing good at go figure..

So, right now shes pissed off at me indefinately, she talks to me but starts to ignore blah blah, I just want to fix the communication problem to begin with, she'll forgive me, but I know it's my responsibility I just don't know how to go about having constant relaxed conversational skills without getting "fierce" or "awwing" her I dont want that, what goes up must come down and I need us to just be there for eachother like any other couple...

Any thoughts at all would help tremendesly because I feel lost. okay well I have AIM and yahoo messenger too if you need to contact me... and my myspace is www.myspace.com/jorgedawrestlinstud haha don't be surprised with all the other girls comments ;) I'm not kidding when I said I was good they're only the tip of the iceberg (scroll down and check mary's comments girls a sexy ****in freak ;))... I've got a dangerous flame.. I can hook your girl if she lets up, but can I simply hold my own girl and relax and enjoy life like a normal human being?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can anyone help at all? I know someone that's on right now is knowledgable enough experience or even just old enough to understand where I'm coming from.
 

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I remember you

you was on some other **** two months ago lol
I think you need to "diversefiy"(sp) yourself, start reading books, pick up a new hobby, looks will fade eventually but a great personality doesn't

Thats the problem with some of yall young cats, its always about look looks looks

women love personality yo, thats what keeps them around and not your looks!!
 

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So why exactly is she upset with you? Is being in a relationship really what you want at this point in your life? Are you afraid you cant do better than her?
Answer those questions for me and everyone else and you will get some feedback.


Oh and if your going to be an assistant coach at a high school you should probably get rid of that part about enjoying weed. Dont you think your myspace is a little bit more personal than it should be? Not just anyone should know those things about you. And dont get me wrong, your a great looking guy, but get rid of those shirtless pictures. When I see pictures like that I think one thing, "that person is trying to hard." Girls shouldnt become attracted to you over myspace, when they meet you they will become attracted to you.
 
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Solomon said:
I remember you

you was on some other **** two months ago lol
I think you need to "diversefiy"(sp) yourself, start reading books, pick up a new hobby, looks will fade eventually but a great personality doesn't

Thats the problem with some of yall young cats, its always about look looks looks

women love personality yo, thats what keeps them around and not your looks!!
Oh same **** solo I remember you, I mean I appreciate this girl, I want to make this work it's squares love... am I capable of pimpin' yes, that's to a very very different constant adrenaline rythem no love just lust sex and power. Thanks for this though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Five To One said:
So why exactly is she upset with you? Is being in a relationship really what you want at this point in your life? Are you afraid you cant do better than her?
Answer those questions for me and everyone else and you will get some feedback.


Oh and if your going to be an assistant coach at a high school you should probably get rid of that part about enjoying weed. Dont you think your myspace is a little bit more personal than it should be? Not just anyone should know those things about you. And dont get me wrong, your a great looking guy, but get rid of those shirtless pictures. When I see pictures like that I think one thing, "that person is trying to hard." Girls shouldnt become attracted to you over myspace, when they meet you they will become attracted to you.
haha well the last part is your opinion.. I have hooked a few girls including the girl I "had pregnant" although shes from the area I hadn't ever met her until we messaged eachother, the truth is I'm a very personal guy and so is Nina if see her profile you would understand why we're so close when we're okay.
anyway:
I want to be in a relationship that I'm sure of I love this girl. I really don't want to do better than her, I am afraid I can't do better than her but I also see I have choices with other girls, I've at least made out with everygirl on my top except for my sister for example... I want to make it work with her but I don't have the confidence at times with myself to keep it going healthy, I get crazy and mess around hence hurting our relationship, you know like shes faithful but I get crazy suspicious even though I know I'm the only one ****ing around.
Haha, I do what a please socially but maybe that's not such a good thing all the time, my wrestling team is 3-0 and I'm a state placer so I use it to my advantage, alpha male sort of, but I think I intimidate people or sometimes they think me too ****y or just don't want to deal with me, not positive things here, but hey, we're trying to solve my social/conversational skills problems.

So maybe you understand me a little better, Nina is pissed off at me for having sex with Hayley she says I broke trust even though we were not dating and she knew I was dating Hayley, she loves me and got jealous and pissed when I told her, we have problems to begin with because I can't ever just relax and be lovers, either shes madly in love with me or there's something terribly wrong, bi-polar like... I want to find a constant stability with her, so everyday is just everyday we're in love and it's okay, I'm relaxed and so is she.
 

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I think its time to say goodbye to Nina. At least for a little bit. It sounds like she has too much extra baggage, its not worth it.

But your confortable with this relationship and people resist change usually. Dont be afraid to make drastic changes in your life, ex. break up with your girlfriend.

Your going to be sad about it but also let yourself be excited. My heart was torn in half when I broke up with a past girlfriend of a year but I was also excited to get back out there and meet new girls. I have yet to find a girl who is better than my ex but that doesnt mean im not as happy. Im accually a lot happier single than with her.

Thats what I think you should do
 
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