"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Trouble in the office

blackbelt2k

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Looking for a little advice here. I was out with a few coworkers last night (i work in IT) and there was a single female with us. I was not
interested in her, but just kept the conversation casual, and non flirtaticious in my view. The most I talked to her, was an argument about
outdrinking everyone including her at the table. So fast foward to this morning at work, I hear from another coworker in another department,
that she heard I was flirting with the girl last night. So basicly one of the guys in my deptartment is spreading rumors. I don't want to b
e known as office playboy and want to maintain a professionalism at work.

I don't understand why another guy would spread sh!t like this, or how they may even have seen any flirting. Should I confront the coworker
whose spreading the rumors or what?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Aragon034

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well dude, i've got plenty of personal experience with this, and really the best thing to do is ignore it. If anyone asks you just brush it off like the nothing it is.

You're still dealing with low level gossip, just ignore it and more than likely it'll stop when people see you aren't affected by it. Any confrontation, argument, or talk you have about the subject will only serve to feed it.

And remember, to some guys, any conversation with a female is automatically assumeed to be flirting. They could be assuming you're just as chumpish as they are and they're trying to bring you back down to their level. Prove them wrong and be a real man.
 
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