"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tried to pick up a waitress: FAILED

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AmIAFC said:
Update:

I went to the same spot last Saturday, to watch some NBA games, and one of the waitresses (who was a friend to the girl) asked me to write down my number on a napkin to give to her. I asked about the first waitresses whereabouts (the one who gave me the incomplete #), and she told me that she didn't work there any more, and she didn't want to lose touch with me, so she asked her to retrieve my # if I were to ever show up.

So I gave the friend my #, and the waitress from a few weeks ago (from the first post in this thread) called the next day (Sunday). We talked for 10 minutes and I told her that I'd call her later in the week after I check my schedule, to set a date.
Why would you do that?

I mean, it doesn't hurt to have an extra phone number, but that original girl played you like a fiddle... and what do you do? Reward her with your number?

Granted, you didn't beg for the number the first time around, but you could have just given the waitress just as many digits as the original one had given you the first time around.

I wouldn't be surprised if she flakes on you. She sounded like a real winner in your OP.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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