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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

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"Tried" ganji games, not sure if it kinda worked or my oneitis caused this

smog_man

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hey

i posted a while ago about a girl in my class, before i go any further i have no real choice not to see this girl at college besides not going in, but i;m on my second degree so thats out the window.

alright down to business,

to summerise this girl does show signs of interest: playful kino (not too much ), good eye contact, mild flirting (ripping on each other),
Also i'm pretty close friends with her
Well after a month of the first semester, i really like this girl, but my game seemed not to be working with her to the extent i wanted, but back home (at weekends) it was going well, i was picking up these hot chicks no problem, no getting layed but i was doin well. (after rediscovering the wealth of knowledge in the dj bible)

with the help of some posts i read, i decided to try the ganji games (the avoid and see what happens approach)
this was a staggered approach, i tried it many occasions but my AFC kept taking me one step backward. I'd last a day, two tops and i'd have to talk to her either because she talked to me or i was to tempted to talk to her, or both.


well after another month and a half i tried again. This time i didn;t fully block her out but dropped alot of spontaneous contact such as when entering the class or if she was working close to me.

(the more i write this the more it sounds like oneitis, but screw it i know it is, i just need to get this out of my head.)

She started to pay more attention i.e initiating contact or conversation, i didn;t last long, before i knew it i was all pally (friendly) with her again.

This time we seem to go out more, i ask her to pub and 2 out of 3 times she'll go but always with a friend in tow (but they're not too bad)
My oneitis is freakin me out at this point, any cigarette time is taken running through scenarios in my head to what she's thinkin, what she meant by this and that, but worst of all jealousy, feckin hate that one.
need to get rid of it but it'll be impossible unless i never go back to college

so what really fcked me up is the last time i saw her, met in house first, seemed very happy to see me, headed to club, had a lot of alone time with her but just smokin and dancing, i never plucked up the nuts to make a move or find out whether she's interested, that night she was doing a lot of kino on the dance floor, lots of holding hands(no slow sets just boogying) plus playful holding of my cheeks,
didn;t end well tho, my AFC comes out when i get a little drunk, she offered to walk me home as usual but in the blurryness of the moment i don;t know what happened i ended up walkin alone,


somebody help,

what IS goin on?

is this worth pursuing ?
if so is there a quick way with minimal repecussions to find out if she likes me, besides asking friend, telling her i like her(this approached isn;t like here) or moving in for a kiss??
 

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feelingloved

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tell her she is sexy. risk stepping it up.
 

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I think that lately this has been affecting my success with other girls, i don;t know how but there is a bloody strong correlation between the increase in "oneitisness" and the drop in success with other girls.

I do need an answer to this as i could be meeting her outagain soon and i want to be takin steps forward, I just need to know which direction.

Any surefire way of finding out her feelings without landing me with another couple of years of having to deal with the consequences of a bad approach to the problem???
 

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hey,

somebody else must have an opinion,

just can't let this keep falling down the list of posts
 

Dust 2 Dust

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I think the fact that she brings friends along with her on your outings is a bad sign. She's using them as a buffer to prevent intimacy between the two of you. A woman with high IL won't bring along a sidekick.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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not going to happen you are in the friends zone, either make a move or forget it.
 

Desdinova

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Stupid fvcking Ganji Games. THIS is the reason why I don't condone that piece-of-5hit technique. You're in deeper than you were before, you're confused as fvck, and you have a bad case of one-itis that you still haven't cured after what, two? three months?

Ganji games waste your time, they're hell on your emotions, they cause you to become frustrated, and you're stuck in this cycle of contact - drop - contact - drop.

Ditch the Ganji Games, ditch the woman, and move on with your fvcking life.
 
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