Treat women like crap = results?

[ManOMan]

I have had a lady friend that I always treated like a fairly respectable lady.

Soon she lost respect for me. Lost interest.

I moved on. But now when I see her, I have a little bit of bitter anger, and when I interact with her, I treat her like shyat.

One part is because she is a heartless goldigger slvt, the other side, that she took my kindness for granted.

I have no idea what this means, but since I have been calling her names, treating her like crap, she has been treating me like a king. She calls me, buys me drinks, is always trying to talk to me.

I know how she is. As soon as I get soft on her again, she will be gone.

I feel very bad, guilty for being mean to her (although she deserves it)
whats the best way out of this, without treateing her bad and not making me look like a soft pushover pvssy?

I have no serious love interest with this girl, but we interact often.

 

[honeyshark]

When you write the "best way out of this", what do you mean? Do you want to have sex with her? Do you want to build a comfortable relationship in which you don't feel guilty about treating her like shiet? Or perhaps you would like to stop treating her poorly but have her still treat you well?

Peace.

 

[ManOMan]

I would like her to treat me well and have me do the same. But Ive learned when I treat her well, she is on the recieving end of the relationship, and treats me bad

when I treat her bad, she treats me well

WTF??

I know, I know, Why continue this relationship

well we see each other alot, and I would like her if she was the nice person all the time, I feel used when Im nice and she is crap

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Give me some examples of how you treated her so well and then how you treated her like shiat. Until I get that I can't really tell you what I think about the situation.

However I can tell you that this girl is a big time attention seeker (aren't they all...LOL). One of the first things I learned was to never give a girl exactlyu what she wants. You might want to adopt this method. It will allow you to be civil with her, but not look like a pu$$y boy pushover.

Give me those examples though and I'll help you out better.



PIMP

 

[honeyshark]

Idea: When she is mean to you, be a jackass back to her, call her on her crap, and let her know she is being a biatch. When she is nice, be nice to her but not in a servile way. This might condition her to be nice and will sent the message that you won't take her ****, but are still an alright guy. Also, you won't have to feel guilty as you are responding to her shiet, not just acting mean for no immediate reason.

Peace.

 

[ManOMan]

well when Im nice to her, whenever somethig bad happens to her, i am supportive, I talk to her on a human level, I am compassionate, and listen. when its her bday I send a card, when she is promoted I send a e-card

when she is a byatch, im like "Ya whateva" "get outta my face with your problems", "stop acting like a ***** and u wont get treated like one"

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Good job, ManoMan. I recently saw the cover of VIBE magazine where sports athletes are quoted as saying "we treat women the way they want to be treated". The issue was plastic wrapped and I didn't get to read the article but I'll venture to say that most women want that "down and dirty" type of treatment. It shows you're in charge and on top of the relationship.

I'm glad this thread came up, it was time that this topic was dealt with, the only other one that comes to mind was "I spit in HB 9 face" awhile back.

 

[dietzcoi]

Yes, many women respond well when you treat them like crap.

Stop feeling guilty... she obviously likes it, why would you feel guility.

Don't be an a$$hole, but be strong and do not take any of her sh1t.

Other than that, just move on with your life.

Dietzcoi

 

[slickone]

Treating women badly

I guess I have two words of advice.

One, you need to figure out what you really want/need out of the relationship. Whether it is no-strings sex or a real relationship and then just deal with it.

Finally, when something ends between two people it is over. I learned that many years ago. Of course, a marriage with children or other deep relationships should be salvaged.

People fall into their old habits. You'll get back together, she'll promise you the world, but days, weeks, months, and sometimes years later she'll fall back into the same patterns.

Just some advice. Good luck.

SlickOne

 

[Porky]

I called a girl a ho-bag once. She proceeded to jump on me and wrestle with me for about 10 minutes, then give me lots of hugs all night.

 

[ScrewIt]

yes women love to be treated like crap, it make them feel like the guy has all the power.

Boy you must've treated her like an AFC to have to teat you that way.

I dont think you have to overly mean to her, but i just think you need to find a balance between "nice guy"and "jerk"

btw girls love it when guys call them names, it's a method of teasing them but ya it works.

 

[The_King]

This is true in my experience , women do enjoy being treated "badly". It is a mechanism which allows you to show you are in control, that she is in your reality.

Do not feel guilty "you are being cruel to be kind" as wih the right girl who is not insecure and carrrying emotional baggage, she will appreciate it (not sure thats the best way to describe it)

I call my girls, stalkers, unsophisticated, boring, tell them they have to earn the next date etc all in front of them...this in turn sends across the message that she has to meet your standards not hers. Which I believe then makes them try harder and give less tests, it also conveys that your not desperate and that your just not merely happy with any girl. However, I do mix this up with being a great guy, so much so they will say things like

"I have a question to ask you (lost her courage to ask)...your so confusing, you keep me on my toes which is a good thing"

I also find they will shower me with compliments, e.g

Your Wonderful
Your amazing

Which I have heard of different girls.

And also

Don't let this be a laura (laura was a girl she knew, who I only meet up for kiss-closing when I was out....she basically wants more)

 

[Player_Supreme]

"I feel very bad, guilty for being mean to her (although she deserves it)
whats the best way out of this, without treateing her bad and not making me look like a soft pushover pvssy?"

Don't waste your time feeling sorry for a ho. She is getting what she actually wanted from you in the beginning.

Golddigger ho's need to be mistreated especially. She made this bed so let her lie in it.

 

[Chemistry]

"well when Im nice to her, whenever somethig bad happens to her, i am supportive, I talk to her on a human level, I am compassionate, and listen. when its her bday I send a card, when she is promoted I send a e-card"

This here is the source of ALL your problems

You been actin like one of her GFs, even like a mother / brother to this girl... you get promoted, mum sends you a card, when daughter got problems she talks em out with mum or with one of her GFs... you're doin all the things that come along with bein a GF but the fundamental difference is that you're a guy, and that combination, especially with the type of girl she is, is not what you want...

What you need to do is continue actin in your unconcerned way, you're not bein 'bad' to her by doin this, she's got other friends who she can confess all to and cry to... but seriously your an alpha male (at least, tell yourself you are) you ain't Mother Teresa, you aren't here to comfort every girl with a problem, cos lets be honest, most girls got a whole lot of problems, you're here to be the object of their desires... the guy they want to be with or the guy they want their guy to be like, who they do things for...

Now with a lot of girls you might not have to be so extreme if you're happy to be a 'friend' to them, altho I personally struggle to see why... but some girls have no respect for a guy who tries to be their friend, as is the current situation, so you gotta do what you gotta do...

If you're lookin for justification, then it's simply found in that you're makin her happy as much as you think you're treatin her bad... its like the conditional love article on the home page, if you make me happy then I make you happy, and this girl is gettin what she wants, what no other guy does to her, so in return she's makin you happy...

So, you're makin this girl happy... her buyin you drinks is thankin you for it, now if only you wanted to **** her then we'd be all set

 

[ManOMan]

Wow that actually all made sense

The way I was raised, I was not to treat people like crap

But Im also a firm believer in treating people the same way they treat you

So if she acts like crap, thats what I will return

I am just shocked that this behavior is actually raising her IL (if not anything, she is trying hard to get my approval and working hard to make me like her)

do you think all women are like this? are just the crazy ones?

I cant imagine being in a relationship with a girl and treating her this way

 

[Chemistry]

Not all...

That's the thing... some women (and the same applies to people) are only good for one thing... I've met a lot of girls out who I've just had to get to know better based on their looks, but a whole lot of these turned out to be in a similar vein to this...

Now what pleases some guys in a woman will piss off other guys altho your instance it seems to the case that the girl is simply out for herself from what you've posted, altho even these kinda girls can be tamed by the right DJ...

So some girls you'll never really get on with but they still look that good, and I'll have these girls down as simply good for sex... then you have other girls who you can actually spend good time with and have fun with 'em and those are the ones who you can be friends with and more, it's all on you

That's part of the idea of being the DJ and meetin women... the more women you meet the better 'selection' you have as it were, if you only meet one girl in your life time the chance of this girl as much as you may think she's perfect, actually being perfect for you are highly unlikely... however, say you meet 100 women in your lifetime, then the chances of one of those women being the right match what you want is much more likely...