"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Took girl out, made out, and now won't respond?

Pimp-sicle

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Robert28 said:
I'm going against the grain here. piss on all that give her two weeks and call her again crap. you made contact twice, she didnt respond, delete her NOW. if she texts or calls you again, too d@mn bad for her. it takes all of 5 seconds to send a text message saying "hey, sorry ive been busy lately but yeah we're still on for this weekend". 5 God d@m seconds. these guys telling you to give her time and if/when she calls you act like nothing happened are the same guys who come on here and piss and moan about how a girl is running them over and isnt respecting them. this aint a game show where you get chance after chance. she had her shot, she sent you signals that she liked you, she didnt follow up on those signals. so in my opinion that makes her a game playing slut who does that same sh!t on every date she goes on. you wanna go out with a girl like that again???????? if you do more power to you. ive developed a zero tollerance for women and their bs. sure i probably lose out on some that i dont make that extra effort but its 50/50 in my book. they are all about equality, so they can equally call/text you and show interest. if/when she does ever get in touch, tell her you met someone else cause you thought she wasnt interested. thatll put her @$$ in her place.


I see where your coming from but this is the wrong attitude to have here. To expect a woman who you barely just met and went on one date to have out of this world high interest in you right off the bat isn't realistic. Women always have options, so the simple fact is if you have this zero tolerance policy your selling yourself short.

Will you be right in a lot of these cases? Definitely.


But you will also be wrong and miss out on potential great girls who for whatever reason (spinning plates, exbf, stress) weren't jumping outta their panties from day 1.


So what's the solution? Easy, date multiple women so you don't have the time and brain space to stress when a girl is showing low interest. I'll also say that making out is really not a big deal at all. I see too many guys on here thinking that just because they made out with a girl that it means she definitely wants them; it doesn't.







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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Robert28 said:
These guys telling you to give her time and if/when she calls you act like nothing happened are the same guys who come on here and piss and moan about how a girl is running them over and isnt respecting them.
Actually I'm talking about the last 5 hot girls I banged. No hot women are instantly totally single and flake-free, no matter who you are. 2 girlfriends ago slept with me on the first date, then vanished for 30 days, then came back and wanted to get married within 10 more days.
 

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The tickets were given to me by a friend because he knows the guitar player. It was no big deal, I just thought I'd give the girl a call because I'd rather go with a girl. She was actually super giddy on the phone and laughed at everything I said before I even asked her out to the concert. Her interest seemed high on the phone and I got a lot of IOIs in person, but like you guys said, girls are fickle.

And don't worry, I am spinning plates. But this girl was gorgeous, so it's hard to get her off my mind.

A week ago I hung out with a girl and her friends and made out with her, but she asked me if we were dating (we had only hung out twice), so I got scared and ran away from that one.

I have another girl in my class that is a little Jessica Alba look alike. She reinitiates conversation with me all the time and she remembers everything I tell her. I got her number last week. She responds to my texts immediately and very positively, but she didn't pick up the phone when I called her to hang out. We'll see how that one goes. This girl is my plan B at the moment, but I need a plan C, D, E and F :)
 

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So the girl finally responded. Or re-initiated contact, however you wanna look at it.

"Hey! Wow I realized I never responded to you!" And then she proceeded to talk about how the orientation at her new job is going. (When I texted her on Sunday I asked her how the orientation went).

I'm guessing she knew she didn't text me back, and is playing hard to get or whatever. I feel weird asking for advice on how to proceed with this, but since this has never happened to me before I am asking for advice. haha. How should I proceed? Text her tonight?
 

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OC Speedball said:
This girl is the weirdest I've met as far as the phone goes.. This girl is in a university, is in two clubs, and spends all day doing homework. She says she never goes out...but it could be BS. I'm just gonna wait it out. Good responses guys.
Austin, keep your hypotheses open, but don't draw your conclusions yet until you have tested them. Keep in mind the setting where you met this girl and what kind of women hangout at a book store. This girl is the other side of the coin to what you said in my field report thread "I wouldn't fight over a girl I met at a night club." Maybe she actually IS busy. Give her the benefit of the doubt. IMO, you might have a good-quality girl here that could be eating from your hand in a near future.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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