Too Scared to Kino...Need Advice!

[Jester090]

Hey guys here's my deal. I'm a relatively popular guy with the chicks at my high school, because I'm pretty good with conversation and stories. But when it comes to getting any individual girl as my girlfriend, I never succeed because I just CAN'T get myself to initiate any kino, even when the girl is glaring signals at me conveying "TOUCH ME!". The ONLY time I'm able to do kino is when a girl does it first, and even in this situation I can rarely do it; I am NEVER the one to initiate. Whenever I touch girls, even if its simply putting my hand on their shoulder, I feel very awkward & self-conscious, especially if it's in the middle of a conversation about something such as last night's biology homework. In other words, I never feel like it's the appropriate time to do kino, because we'll be talking about things like school, college, teachers, etc...

I always get as far as I can with chicks without touching them, and quite frankly, this isn't very far--I can get their digits, and date, no problem--but when it comes to touch, I can't do it...I need some advice on how to fix this frustrating part of my game... And please don't tell me to go read the articles on kino--I've already done that, and quite frankly, they usually make me even more scared to touch because they say things like "make sure you don't come off as creepy when you touch, or else you might weird out the girl". If anyone could give me some solid advice or a method through which I could resolve this, or atleast a reframing of my beliefs, I would be very grateful.

 

[AB500]

Start small dude, very small. If you can't jump into the big stuff start with little things like opening up your posture, giving hugs when you great a girl, and kinoing other guys as bad as that sounds. I don't know about where you live but around here it is pretty normal for dudes to hug chicks (and even other dudes). Start with that.

When I first started kino I started opening up to people and not being afraid to let people brush agiasnt me in hallways and the such. I met a few people that would hug me whenever they saw me and from there I took off with it. One thing I'll tell you is that it's hard to introduce kino around people that know you when you have never used it before.

Don't be afraid to touch people. There is nothing wrong with it but with society the way it is people are almost starved from human contact. For most people hugging them and touching them will be a welcome refreshment from the anonymousity and detachment that most people feel while interacting.

 

[Dante3214]

Like AB said, start with practicing kino on your friends (yes, you CAN do this in a non-gay way), then on ugly chicks, and eventually you won't even give a sh!t whether a girl is bothered by it or not.

A punch on the shoulder for your friends, a hug from your mom, or anything AT ALL can make you more comfortable.


But... I wouldn't try doing it unless you're comfortable, because then you worry whether she was bothered or whatnot.

Start small, and good luck!