"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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too harsh a voicemail message?

DJHoolahoop

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haha ok i know this post already is going to get a lot of the "who gives a sh*t" responses, but hey is there such thing as being too assertive or agressive? cuz this girl was supposed to hang out with me and hasn't showed up, so i'm tempted to leave this on her voicemail: "you know, this is really rude of you to keep me waiting like this and not call. if you're not going to show up then tell me, i told you before i wouldn't put up with this and i won't. don't make it easy for me to not want to talk to you anymore, so call me back."

like personally i have already walked away from this, and now its just me making sure i made the right decision. i already have plans to hang out with some girls tomorrow night, so this girl is history in my mind. the other part of me told me to just ignore this girl and not even waste any more time with her. just cut her loose right now, not phone back and never look back again.

think i should just do that?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DO NOT CALL HER.

Any action on your part makes you look weak. You have better things to do with your life than to get sucked into some dramatic conversation with a female thats not interested in you. They are problem enough when they do like you... LOL
 

DJHoolahoop

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ya that's what i ended up doing anyways. i fell asleep and then woke up a few hours later and just went out and did my own thing. apparently she called while i was gone. i'm really tempted to just ignore her completely now, but all the while i wonder if i've just been over-reactive about it. i know i've been going through some things lately so that might contribute to it, but i just get the feeling this girl is flaking on me without good reason.

so i thought about not calling her and waiting for her to call me and then when she does, to ask her what she did last night and all that and to say "you've been acting very flakish with me lately, what's up?"

and i'm wondering if i should just forget about it and find a way out to my friends cabin.
 
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