"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To the ladies(and guys) out there

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So I decided to hit up the mall today for some practice. I saw this cute chick who gave me a smile and it was on. Everything went well, a lot of IOIs, kino and eye contact. But when it came down to it, she told me she had a bf. I think my problem, as usual, is I close too soon. But I thought I was pretty smooth here. She smiled everytime I kino'ed her and very conversational.

My question is...ladies, would you actually reject a guy you have an interest for because you have bf?

and for the guys here give me your thoughts too.

then again it could have just been a plain ol' rejection :crackup:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yeah I mean, there actually are a few decent women out there. They're a novelty/rarity these days, but you'll find them...if you're lucky. What guy wants their girl to be giving out her number to other guys hitting on her? She wants to stay faithful probably because shes satisfied.

But...you could have worked your game perfectly but if her man offers around the same thing or something better, why shouldn't she reject you?
 
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yes, i would reject every guy that approaches me because i have feelings for my husband. i would reject the other guys even if i weren't married and he was still my boyfriend. that is what being in a relationship is all about. if you would accept a date with a new guy while in a serious relationship, then what good are you?
 
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If I'm in a relationship, yes...I will reject a guy that make a move on me. I'm not the type to roll my eyes when I get hit on and tell the guy to get lost. I'll be polite and friendly, and let him know I'm taken. This doesn't mean there was "interest" on my part just because I was friendly about it.
 
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when a girl thinks you are just trying to pick her up or after some ass the give you numbers when they dont want you to call and they also tell you about boyfriends they dont have just so you leave them the **** alone
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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most of the time, any decent girl who is taken will politely decline or keep you in the friend zone.

that's the kind of girl you'd want to go for anyway, someone who is loyal to their man, even if it's not you.

you can always play the background and wait for her to break up with her man, it's all about timing.
 
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yes, i would reject every guy that approaches me because i have feelings for my husband. i would reject the other guys even if i weren't married and he was still my boyfriend. that is what being in a relationship is all about. if you would accept a date with a new guy while in a serious relationship, then what good are you?
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If I'm in a relationship, yes...I will reject a guy that make a move on me. I'm not the type to roll my eyes when I get hit on and tell the guy to get lost. I'll be polite and friendly, and let him know I'm taken. This doesn't mean there was "interest" on my part just because I was friendly about it.
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These, gentlemen are LADIES.

I love LADIES!

:yes:

Remember , that just becasue a woman is talking to you, does not mean that she is 'flirting' with you or is interested in you.


Recognize how women flirt.

Recognize if a woman is attracted.

Recognize if a woman is INTERESTED.

And assume she does want a Man until she states other wise.

This is why the general rule is to ask indirectly things like "So , who are you here with?" early on.

Also, if a girl has a BF, that is OK.
Do not take that personally, or get bitter, or harbor resentment.

Also realize that a woman may or may not be satisfied in her relationship. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Just like if you were in a bad situation and you were in those stages where you were thinking about how to get out, and you meet a nice woman, you would think about the possibility and not be so quick to pass up the opportunity.

Sometmies a person is ready to meet someone.
Sometimes they are not.
Sometimes they may be attracted, but are not interested
Sometimes the environment is wrong.
Sometimes you miscalibrated, and you have to live ith it and move on.

Thee are no guarantees.

You will never 'know' until you put yourself on the spot.
 
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Interceptor said:
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These, gentlemen are LADIES.

I love LADIES!

:yes:

Remember , that just becasue a woman is talking to you, does not mean that she is 'flirting' with you or is interested in you.


Recognize how women flirt.

Recognize if a woman is attracted.

Recognize if a woman is INTERESTED.

And assume she does want a Man until she states other wise.

This is why the general rule is to ask indirectly things like "So , who are you here with?" early on.

Also, if a girl has a BF, that is OK.
Do not take that personally, or get bitter, or harbor resentment.

Also realize that a woman may or may not be satisfied in her relationship. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Just like if you were in a bad situation and you were in those stages where you were thinking about how to get out, and you meet a nice woman, you would think about the possibility and not be so quick to pass up the opportunity.

Sometmies a person is ready to meet someone.
Sometimes they are not.
Sometimes they may be attracted, but are not interested
Sometimes the environment is wrong.
Sometimes you miscalibrated, and you have to live ith it and move on.

Thee are no guarantees.

You will never 'know' until you put yourself on the spot.
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Please, for the love of God, RMEMEBER THIS.

I have had so many headaches from being nice to guys and them thinking I was flirting/leading them on. I am probably one of the types of women you guys hate...I get along well with guys because of my interests (I work in sports, like to go out and watch the game, eat wings, drink beer) and it has caused me a lot of problems. I get confused when guys get upset with me for "showing interest" when I really wasn't.
 
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It's good to see there are still some faithful women out there. :cheer: And some of you have made some good points. I think I was in the attraction stage with her but otherwise that's all there was.

Keep in mind this was day game - I kino'ed her on her hips and she started giggling and brushing her hair. I also have seen girls who weren't interested, and boy were they cold...

And I guess that's why it kind of confuses me because I was doing everything right, getting all the right signals..then bam! Oh well, I felt good after that approach though. :up:
 
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