To sex or not to sex...that is the question

[Chris Gamble]

Alright DJs, I'm trying to see if I'm playing my cards right here...

There is this girl I have been seeing/FB for the last month and the past couple of nights I have gone over to her place and NOT had sex with her and I have told her that I am busy (which is legit)and have other things to do (i.e. studying etc.) and left w/out sexing her.

Tonight we started making out and she clearly didn't want me to go (holding me in when I tried to break the kiss) and I told her we will have to continue this tomorrow night (we are going out to a bar for this Maxim contest). And she says she may not want to tomorrow night blah blah blah (seems upset). Am I playing my cards right making her wait for sex, anticipate it, etc. and not "giving it up" all the time?

I just don't want to get into a boring routine of me going over there and her expecting me to have sex with her every time (not that I don't enjoy it). Do I have the right mindset here? (I don't think this will be a LTR) I know I should just fukk her brains out whenever I can, but I'm trying to work some DJ skills here and is this a good move?

I guess I'm trying to get her thinking "Why won't he sex me up?" "Am I not good enough for him?" etc... Thoughts??

Comments/Feedback/Criticism welcome!

-Chris

 

[belividere]

chris:

She is a fvck buddy if this is known then why play games. The only reason that I could see why doing that would get you anywhere is if you expected more out of your relationship. If that is the case then you are obviously at a point where you can make it happen. I'm sorry but I'm lost as to what holding sex with an fb would really do except stroke your own ego.

 

[MacDiddy]

push-pull push-pull....
punish.. reward...

built anticipation, suspense, sexual tension...

You will drive them crazy for you..

tho...When you make her wait for sex, make sure its fcuking good when you give it to her!!!

 

[omizzi]

I think you're doing really good. It's all your choice though. You have the control right now. I give you props for that. It's really all up to what you want? Do u want her to want you so bad? You're behind the wheel, but don't make it a long trip because it may get tiring after a while.

 

[Chris Gamble]

Thanks for the replies DJs...

It's not that I want to play games or make her want me really bad, its just that this is the girl I lost my virginity to (and the only girl I've sexed) and I don't want to get predictable! Any other tips of how I could do that would be appreciated!

-Chris

 

[NewMan]

Dude.

You don't want an LTR - so don't worry about it.

just fvck her whenever you can.....

Your inexperienced - the only way to get exeprience is to bang,

Don't worry about it getting predictable....

Use you imagination...

Use food, different places to bang, positions......

Don't run before you walk.

 

[Chris Gamble]

Good call, NewMan.

Anybody else with a similar experience?

-Chris

 

[whistler]

well, she obviously wants you...

If she were ambivalent, then you'd have a reason for push/pull.

Bang the sh!t out her. For frig's sake, that's the point.

Having sex won't ruin your potential for an LTR (if that's what you want). It'll just make it more likely that if you do have an LTR, lots of sex will be the norm.

But she's your first one. Half the fun is f'ing like rabbits.

Refusing a girl when she's pressing her body to yours isn't a way to pass a test, and won't make her respect you more. What it will do is make her feel rejected, and make you a source of bad feelings. (Bad feelings yucky, me stay away.)