"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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To **** or not to ****, that is the question

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So I hung out with this hot bartender the other night and we chilled at her pad for a couple hours and then she tells me she needs to do some hw. So I start kinda touching her to get her closer, and she just leans in and starts making out with me. My hand was on her back, so when she moved in, my hand just went right on her ***** because she had a tiny ass skirt on and thong. Then I grab her naked ass because my hand's already there. Then she starts tongueing it for a bit, and then she's just like "You have to go....(makeout more)... you have to go. i don't want to be bad right now... (makeout more)... you have to go." So I was like alright and she walked me out and that was that.

But now thinking back on it, I kinda regret not making more moves. She busted out weed so I was high, so I kinda overthought it and hesitated kinda. So I think I passed out up a good opportunity with a hot ass chick. Do you think I did the right thing or not? Also, I'm having trouble with this situation with other chicks, so please give me some input. thanks homies
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If a girl invites you over to her place alone or comes alone to your place then she wants to f*ck. Simple as that. You don't "hang out for a couple of hours". Once she's in the door just start making out with her.

She wanted you to f*ck the sh!t out of her. The whole "I don't want to be bad thing" was either a test, either her trying to at least look like she's not a slut, or both.

Seriously, if a girl is making out with you then that's a pretty clear sign she wants to f*ck.

You blew it.
 

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Yup, blew it.

Well, I guess you won't be making that mistake again. haha

That's the story of all our lives here.

"If only I'd known before..."
 

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If a woman invites you to her pad or goes to your pad to be alone with you = open to the possibility of fudgin

if a woman ends up passionately making out with you in her or your pad while you two are alone = wants to fudge

OP, don't be surprised if you get friendzoned now. Because you weren't aggressive enough and because you didn't finish the job all kinds of anti-slut defense thoughts must have been running through her head.

Don't be surprised that after that furious makeout session she now acts totally indifferent to you when you next see her. It's probably game over for this one.
 
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seriously, well i'm pretty sure i'm going to hang out with her again, so we'll see. but it will be harder now that i passed it up the first time. it seemed like a test because she was forcing her tongue down my throat. i was just high and made a mistake. what do you think my chances are now
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Don't try to convince us that you f*cked up because you were high.

Tell her that. Play with words and trust your gut.
 

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i agree with the creepy dude wjo faked his friends death.... Just give it a shot. If u messed up. Nbd game over. Hit the restart and do it again
 

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by restart i mean a new hoe..... Just clearin that up
 

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justkyle said:
i agree with the creepy dude wjo faked his friends death.... Just give it a shot. If u messed up. Nbd game over. Hit the restart and do it again
Creepy dude lmfao. It's no big deal it just built up anticipation for when you do **** her
 
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Wow it seems like you guys think I ****ed up permanently. Don't you think she might be more attracted to me now that I kinda turned down sex from her or maybe do you think she thinks of me as someone that doesn't know what they're doing???
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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first things first...... We can only guess what b!tches is thinkin.... She may be more attracted to you... Or she may thin of you as an adolecent poon..... You just never know untill you put it out there.... Personally i would go up to her.... Make sure she is watching me as i walk up to her.... Eye fudge the poo outta her as i do it.... Grab he by her hip and bury my hand in her hair (on the back of her head) and kiss the shyt outta her. Then whisper in her ear.... Im gunna fudge you.... Your only choice is where..... Litterally just tried this manuver three days ago... And im still putt neosporin on the scratches goin down my back :)
give it a shot or not.... Im giving you the tools... Its up to u to grow the stones to use them.
 
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