"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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To know thyself!

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What is it to know oneself. I've come a long way. When I started this journey I couldn't speak a good one line even to my relatives or closed ones. Had no ****ing clue how this world operated. Along my journey I've realised success and failure plays a minimal role in the journey more important being building a unshakeble, self-loving, commited character, it is about knowing oneself. Our passion, hobbies, dreams, visions, likes-dislikes, strength , weakness, your feelings, emotional intelligence, what are you grateful for. Also the seduction community itself pushes more towards abnormality. The abnormality arises from the belief that women are different (not human?) in the first place. They are different but not the way we think. The only truth is you are a man and have masculine energy and they have a feminine energy and they do things their way like we like to do things our way. Trust me on this one, I've seen many beaut girls more nervous than you could ever be but they know how to hide it.
Its simple with girls, you don't play games with them, they won't play games with you.
All these great things became evident not after reading tons of material but knowing myself better and looking things from new angles. I'm now on this quest to myself more and more.
I'll write more soon.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

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Funny you should say that!

It makes more and more sense to me that knowing who you are and what you want (and be happy with yourself) is the foundation of a social life (not just 'social life' but actually living as a social being).
The problem is, how to find out who you are?
There are a lot of factors that determine who you are:
-How you grow up;
-The social groups you have encountered (for instance, if you meet really nice people in a goth group, you are more likely to become one yourself);
-The people you meet and how they interact with you;
-Beliefs your friends and family have
-etc.etc.

While it's ofcourse true that these factors are really important in who you become, it is also a drawback to really get to know yourself.
Which is why a lot of people these days (if they have the time and money) go on 'a quest to find themselves'.

What happens is that you go somewhere all alone and learn how to live with yourself.

Unfortunately this isn't something we can all do (money/time).
I recently stumbled upon how little I know myself.
What hobbies do I actually like (instead of, what am I supposed to like to get other people to like me or what fits in my social group)
What is my view on ...

I mean, if it's about rational stuff I'm all there. I know a lot, have broad interest, follow the news, can talk along about a lot of thing, but in a social way (opinions, hobbies) it's a lot more difficult.

I'm going to a psych in a couple of weeks hoping he will help me find myself. I know it sounds a bit ...extreme, but we live in the 21st century. I have the means, why not use them?
 

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Meditation is by far the best way to get in touch with ourselves. I do meditation almost on a regular basis and its completely changed the way I approach towards situations . I'm going to start with *zen* perhaps. I've heard a lot about it.
What you say is true. Well we can have fun and talk a lot about many things. But what bothers me(us?) is there is this void inside me. Its slowly started to go as I've getting to know myself better, its like something is solidifying within me.
THE NEXT STEP :
We all know what we like doing and are passionate about, atleast most of us know. Then all we have to do is just add fuel to the fire. The fire will drive us towards our destination. After my exams are over I'll be taking out time for what I love and actually truely passionately involve in it. Perhaps this is my purpose.
I'm so excited when I wake up every ****ing day.
Just want to add, this might inspire someone, if not it still inspires me. A guy once told me, "**** it! Your brain all this while has made you believe that you are not the greatest and guess what, you believed in that lie, your mannerisms and everything you did or chose were in line with that. Now tell your brain that you are the greatest even if you think its a lie. It still will believe it."
 
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