To buy or not to buy gifts?

[g188]

In a LTR and my GF keeps wanting me to buy her gifts. She says she does not feel special because I don't.

I don't buy her gifts other then special occasions and tend to try and not spend too much money on her because i believe that it makes girls spoilt and they usually end up wanting more and more. From experience you normally end up a bit of a mug, with a spolt girl who wants more and more and you end up without the girl and an empty wallet.

However to the girl you look mean and look as though you are tight with your cash, which cant be a quality feature, can it?

I have also broken my ankle and kinda agreed to buying her a gift if she looked after me when my parents went away. However i av now said i won't cus she did not do a very good job. she was more of a burden, though she was company, she made a mess, used all my blank dvds and i ended up cleaning and she did not do any washing up.

I also said that i had wasted enough money on her at the weekend, and that should be her present. I went with her to her mates party and on a rare occasion bought the drinks and taxis etc. she wasted my money by saying she wanted to go to a club when we got home, which i agreed to pay for cus she had no money. i had to pay for a taxi there, entrance and a taxi back. N when we got there she wanted to leave almost instantly. we stayed for about 15 mins ad one drink and tuned back. i did not make much of a scene out of this n think i av now snapped and am now bein recentful with not buying her a gift.

So by using my theory i look tight, should i give in and buy the gift, i usually don't go back on wot i av said but this time i feel by buying her a gift i will be spoiling her when i don't feel like she deseves it.

She also knows that in previous relationships i have spoilt other girls. wot should i do or say so i dont fall back into my afc ways and end up with a girl who is spoilt and unapreciative? At the same time i want her to feal special (or do i)

cheers

 

[Bible_Belt]

It sounds like you don't like her very much. She is asking for gifts because she can tell that you don't like her a lot. A gift itself will not solve the problem. She is actually looking for some signs that you care about her a lot, but honestly, it does not sound like you do very much. That's the real issue, not gifts.

 

[falcon814]

i personally wouldnt.
In the past and present i have never bought any girls gifts, yet they still cling to me.

Even for their birthdays all i ever do is get a birthday card.. and write something sweet on em lol and the girls love it.
Then i compliment it with some good sex.

What better gift then that.
It works for me no matter what occasion.

 

[dannyegg4575]

To buy or not to buy...

who gives a sh>t? Why are you debating to get someone you love a gift or not? I mean, if you're putting her on pedestal, of course you shouldn't. But if you're just getting it for her, simply because you want to, now that's a whole different story isn't it?

why are you so cheap? Why give them an excuse to say you're cheap?
If you're broke, you're broke. but if you walk by a florist shop and you see some nice flowers, just get them if you want.

if she asks, "why'd you get this?" Just say, "cause I was thinking of you today."

just do it for the sake of your feelings for her. Not what she wants, or if you want to win points. screw it. You'd buy your kids toys once in awhile don't you? You're not spoiling anybody by putting a smile on their face.

Not like you're buying the girl a house in a week's time of meeting her and asking her to marry you.

man..., you guys are stingy. lol

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

It sounds like you don't like her very much. She is asking for gifts because she can tell that you don't like her a lot. A gift itself will not solve the problem. She is actually looking for some signs that you care about her a lot, but honestly, it does not sound like you do very much. That's the real issue, not gifts.

I have to disagree on this one from my experience. Some girls are just never satisfied with the things you do for them. Such as giving them things, taking them places, buying them things and ect. Then, act like you don't do sh!t for them. Maybe, it depends on the situation and the girl...

 

[falcon814]

Ur fine bro, if she leaves u cause u didnt buy her gifts then u dont wanna be with a girl like that anyways.

 

[The_Game]

Birthdays, xmas and valentines are the only time when you should even consider getting girls gifts.

 

[Lion]

Exactly (The_Game), this is not the way it should be. You're in control. Does she buy you gifts? How long have you been together?