"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tips on Smiling?

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Anyone have any tips on how to smile 'on the spot'? I'm usually a friendly guy, I laugh at a lot of stuff so I am smiling often, but when I find a situation where I'm supposed to smile I just can't do it, it seems forced.

Today at the computer terminal this hot chick was checkin me out a couple of times, so I definitely figured something was up. Next time she looked at me I decided I was gonna flash her a smile. She looked at me again...I sort of tried to force a smile but I just couldn't do it....it didn't seem natural at all. I seem to only smile when I laugh (which is often) or when I am REALLY happy. And altho I kind of got 'the rush' at this situation and I was a little excited, I just couldn't force a smile.

And ya I could've just talk to her...but I would rather smile and gauge her reaction cuz I don't have the guts to just openly start a conversation in a situation like that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BlaKTooth

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You can't force a smile.

In your situation, as soon as you thought about forcing the smile, you shoulda just pushed the idea out of your head and started thinking about other stuff (like, oh, the rack of the girl you're staring at :D ).

Even if a smile didn't come out, the girl would have definitely seen a swave, confident look on your face. That's good :cool:

And don't try to stop smiling and make a serious look either; don't try to do anything except focusing on the girl. The rest will work out by itself.
 

lYlasTer

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I never force smiles. When I'm in the king of the world mode, I'll go to the mirror and smile. When I'm in a bad mood, I'll go to the mirror and smile. BIG difference. Key is just to be in a good mood and an overall happier person. The smiles should come naturally.
 

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...practice...smiling?

I'm going to go out on a limb and claim that nobody needs that level of training.

I smile, laugh, crack jokes, etc, but I never smile for the camera. That sort of smile is always fake and silly in my opinion, and it doesn't really look nice to me.

Same with this situation. What you might want to do next time is say something that'd cause you to smile (crack a joke, whatever), so at least it will be natural.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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wind20mph

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try doing what james bond do. he seldome smiles and still gets whats he wants. Nice!
 

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best thing you can do to help you smile is....

BE PROUD OF YOUR SMILE.

Regardless if you're a natural smiler, or you gotta fake it a bit...if you're teeth are jacked, nasty, and full of stains and plaque...forget what you look like.

Go to a dentist, get your teeth cleaned professionally at home, bleach if you have to, get ortho...keep your teeth sharp..

i guarantee the healthier and better looking your teeth, the more you'll flash them to the ladies...
 

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I don't smile too much. I only show my teeth when I'm laughing or when I'm sharing a really nice moment with someone. Regarding girls, when it's silent and we're just sitting there, or she sneaks a look, I flash a broad smile.

Usually, I have a grin that's not too happy, but it's like you're semi-holding somethign funny in. They always ask, "what's so funny?" Then you can start a convo or something....but this is from HS experiences.
 

Tha Realnezz

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I never fake a smile-I'm Too real.

-Tha Realnezz.
 

Freeman

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smiling

Think about something in the past that made you experience some sort of euphoria and there you go! Smile will come naturally.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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blue17

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Alright so far I think the best idea is to think about something that would make me smile and then just go from there. The other alternative is just a grin, I can do that pretty naturally...but it doesn't look as good as a legit smile if you know what I mean. And of course I could just talk to her/make a comment about the situation but i'm too big of a pu$$y!
 
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