Tips on Convo

[nan3109]

Can you give me tips on this conversation, or my skills in general that I should work on when talking with girls?

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alphaguy1984: yo
fantasmo x: hey
alphaguy1984: whats happenin
alphaguy1984: matchbox romance? is that their new album?
fantasmo x: yes.
alphaguy1984: hell yeah, i love them. I saw them in minneapolis a few years ago when they were on MTV alot
fantasmo x: rawr
fantasmo x: i saw them this past oct.
alphaguy1984: damn, i missed that one, i love the feeling ya get when they're right up in front of ya performing live
fantasmo x: yeah
fantasmo x: its amazing
alphaguy1984: so when was the last bf you had?
fantasmo x: i'd rather not discuss that.
alphaguy1984: oh, can you recall the sweetest thing that one of your ex's did for you?
alphaguy1984: one of*
fantasmo x: none of them have done anything sweet.
alphaguy1984: well can you remember your first kiss?
fantasmo x: yeah..
fantasmo x: 8th grade
fantasmo x: in the back of a bus.
fantasmo x: hahah
fantasmo x: under a blanket
alphaguy1984: lol, that's hilarious
alphaguy1984: kinda daring too
alphaguy1984: and a blanket too huh?
alphaguy1984: sounds like your the cuddling type... am i right?'
fantasmo x: yup.
fantasmo x: <3
alphaguy1984: yeah, i like to cuddle, but i also have this thing for nibbling on ears and kissing necks
alphaguy1984: kinda sends shivers down me
fantasmo x: lol yes!
fantasmo x: me too
fantasmo x: i like that stuff
alphaguy1984: massage?
alphaguy1984: i like to use heating massage oil, preferably like flavored ones from sex world... they're the best
alphaguy1984: but i like to give em more than receive
fantasmo x:
alphaguy1984: which face is that?
fantasmo x: um...
fantasmo x: a silly one?

fantasmo x: haha
alphaguy1984: nice
alphaguy1984: so...
fantasmo x: soooooo
alphaguy1984: your not one for words right now ;-)
fantasmo x: im sorry i am really stressed
alphaguy1984: well, i dont want to be your new counselor but tell me about it if you feel like it
fantasmo x: my friend has been talking **** about me
fantasmo x: but she wont say any of it to my face
fantasmo x: which really bothers me
alphaguy1984: you guys been friends for a long time?
fantasmo x: yes
fantasmo x: shes really manipulative
fantasmo x: and she is trying to get my friends to agree with how she feels
alphaguy1984: wow, what did you do that makes her do that
fantasmo x: i was dating a guy that she wnated back in 11th grade and this guy woudln't have anything to do with her
alphaguy1984: damn, girl troubles there
alphaguy1984: i dont know what you could do, but trust me, i know what that's like
alphaguy1984: at least your lucky enough to KNOW she's talking ****
alphaguy1984: so you can put the clappin' to her
alphaguy1984: ***** slap her!
fantasmo x: i want to
alphaguy1984: seriously... that's sometimes the only thing that makes people get the hint
fantasmo x: lol
fantasmo x: she came into my store today and i wanted to punch her
alphaguy1984: and listen, there's a TON of people in the world, you can make friends like nothing
alphaguy1984: so dont dwell over some girlfriend of yours while you know your a good enough of a person that there's a million more friends out there just waiting in line
fantasmo x: lol yeah.
fantasmo x: i know but it just bothers me that shes fake
alphaguy1984: where do you work again?
fantasmo x: a nature gift shop
fantasmo x: and the decc
alphaguy1984: sweet, lol
alphaguy1984: how is it working there?
fantasmo x: its not bad



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[TillTheEndOfTime]

I'm assuming you're trying to get with this girl. If this is the case, you got to be more careful. You're shooting yourself in the foot. I'll first leave it to you to see why...if you can't see it I'll elaborate. However, what I have in mind is straight from the DJ Bible. Maybe you should read that.

 

[Chilli_pimp]

Originally posted by nan3109
alphaguy1984: damn, i missed that one, i love the feeling ya get when they're right up in front of ya performing live
fantasmo x: yeah
fantasmo x: its amazing
alphaguy1984: so when was the last bf you had?
fantasmo x: i'd rather not discuss that.
alphaguy1984: oh, can you recall the sweetest thing that one of your ex's did for you?
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great transition... (im being sarcastic)

big mistake, don't talk about her ex's... you wanna keep her mind of that shiit.. that's why she dumped/or they dumped her...
reading this convo right now, it looks like ur trying hard... too hard...

 

[Bussey]

Yea, both posters ahead of me are right bro.

I'll give you a hint...















WHERE THE HELL WAS THE C+F?
You acted liek ssssuuuuccccchhhhhh a chick!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Re: Re: Tips on Convo

Originally posted by Chilli_pimp
great transition... (im being sarcastic)

big mistake, don't talk about her ex's... you wanna keep her mind of that shiit.. that's why she dumped/or they dumped her...
reading this convo right now, it looks like ur trying hard... too hard...

Yes, this is one of the mistakes. Both the abrupt topic change and the topic itself!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by nan3109

alphaguy1984: sounds like your the cuddling type... am i right?'
fantasmo x: yup.
fantasmo x: <3
alphaguy1984: yeah, i like to cuddle, but i also have this thing for nibbling on ears and kissing necks
alphaguy1984: kinda sends shivers down me



alphaguy1984: well, i dont want to be your new counselor but tell me about it if you feel like it
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Besides the mentioning of the ex-bf thing, these two are things that you shouldn't have said.

1) Cuddling? You probably heard that garbage that women like sensitive guys who will cuddle with them etc....remember what woman say is NOT what they necessarily want. By saying this you are posting a big sign on your forehead that says "WUSS!"

2) You said you don't want to be her new counselor, then don't!!! This is by far the WORST mistake you made. Let me tell you counselors/psychiatrists don't get the sex. By doing this you're putting yourself deeper in the "just friends" department and you're setting yourself up to be a emotional dump.

 

[christz]

if your gonna talk about how you like cuddleing and nibbleing ears add some C+F in there man lol that was crazy sounds like something a chick would say.. you shoulda added

"and i also like to have rough sex, ya know the kind where you knock shyt over and slap azz"

lol she probably woulda cracked up at that.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

ur conversation was perfect, your next line should be
:so do u want to get in my pants?
:no
:no ? well theres room for u, hop in
:no go away freak
:aww cmon please, my pants were made for you.

 

[Chilli_pimp]

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
ur conversation was perfect, your next line should be
:so do u want to get in my pants?
:no
:no ? well theres room for u, hop in
:no go away freak
:aww cmon please, my pants were made for you.

..convo continued..
:like i said freak, i'm never talking to you again
:.....so what's your mom and dads name?
:did you hear me?
"yes i did, you wanna talk about it?




ok, don't be discouraged.. u've learned something new, now don't make the same mistake

 

[nan3109]

Originally posted by Chilli_pimp
..convo continued..
:like i said freak, i'm never talking to you again
:.....so what's your mom and dads name?
:did you hear me?
"yes i did, you wanna talk about it?




ok, don't be discouraged.. u've learned something new, now don't make the same mistake

ok, so what was my mistake now? Other than not using enough or any c and F?

 

[Microphone Fiend]

sounds lke an NLP fan
Just work on your transition and set up, mask the change of frames but relating it to the previous topic a little better. If you follow NLP which it sounds like you were tryin to implement in da convo you learned a couple things u can display subtlely around her, like being real.... as for the cuddling thing ya, it sounds good, but to me it came off like you were just conforming to what you thought the girl would like

As for the convo, you turned it into galpal situation when you started talking about her friend, try and stay away from negative situations. Also read the post about conversation in the tips sections (not the DJ bible) when you throw something out there for her to talk about, you gotta relate it to yourself, so the next time she thinks of that stimuli you are related to it. You got a couple "me too"s and that's good, but you gotta give your experience following a "me too"

fantasmo x: none of them have done anything sweet.
alphaguy1984: well can you remember your first kiss?
fantasmo x: yeah..
fantasmo x: 8th grade
fantasmo x: in the back of a bus.
fantasmo x: hahah
fantasmo x: under a blanket
alphaguy1984: lol, that's hilarious
alphaguy1984: kinda daring too
alphaguy1984: and a blanket too huh?
alphaguy1984: sounds like your the cuddling type... am i right?'

This is the most she spoke in a row probably, she wants to stay on this subject subconciously, you coulda stayed on it a little more and did a lil time distortion. Previous memories are the most powerful when it comes to feelings

You coulda said something like "Wow that musta been such a rush, I remember my first kiss like it was yesterday...(here you can talk about your first kiss in descriptive detail or tell a joke)..."To be young again . In fact i think im gonna watch some pokemon tonight. hehehe"

Just keep the conversation fun and upbeat, she gives info then you return the favour with something that makes you two look perfect for each other inadvertenly, DON'T be her yes man. Think of how Mel Gibson was in "What Women want" they always were like "He said what i was thinking or gonna say b4 i said it" That is a later stage of gaining rapport and it gets a hell of a lot easier after this part.

Stay away from the AIM sarging anyhow, get in the field bruh!