Tips on a challenge?

[Tomo]

So I got the number of this HB from work that I've been flirting with. Everything is going well besides getting a date. Yeah I know, that means her IL is low etc. Normally I'd next a girl like this but I feel like a challenge. The only reason for this is our personalities match up and she's an 8/10 on my scale.

To clarify, this is just your summer highschool/ university low paying job so I don't have much to lose if things don't work out. Furthermore, I still have my university parties and meeting people through other means. So it is not like I am missing out by by developing oneitis and putting my eggs in one basket.

Now the thing is I'm not sure how to proceed with this. I've had success before by going AFC - messaging a HB 24/7, building a connection and getting the date. I've had just as much success by simply not texting and only using this medium to contact her to set up dates. The good thing is I only now work once a week and having missed the last, was told she missed me that week off.

So what I am putting this down to is having not built enough of a report with her. She seems like the type who prefers building a friendship before anything. I am not caught up on her so if I end up as friends with her, I'm not too fussed but I do want to take a punt on this one as I've found I've just got too many options so gotta pick one. Have other girls in the background but they don't appeal to me as much. My friends think I am crazy.

So I know I'm going to probably get flamed or recieve many posts about finding a HB that has high IL instead but surely there is a clause somewhere that says if something ever catches your eye, you should atleast take a punt? I am way past my AFC days of unrequisite love etc and each year, feel like I keep improving so any of you guys have any tips for me or what not, feel free to in put!

 

[TheException]

Normally I'd next a girl like this but I feel like a challenge. The only reason for this is our personalities match up and she's an 8/10 on my scale.

So it is not like I am missing out by by developing oneitis and putting my eggs in one basket.

Now the thing is I'm not sure how to proceed with this. I've had success before by going AFC - messaging a HB 24/7, building a connection and getting the date.

She seems like the type who prefers building a friendship before anything.

finding a HB that has high IL instead but surely there is a clause somewhere that says if something ever catches your eye, you should atleast take a punt?

Well first off, its clear you havent bought in to the key principles we teach here. Prize Mentality, Acting like a man, sexual dynamics, etc. So before I give my opinions, Id direct you straight to the principles and work on that aspect before any specific advice will actually TRULY make sense to you.

So I got the number of this HB from work that I've been flirting with. Everything is going well besides getting a date.

Soooooo its NOT been going well.

I'm not too fussed but I do want to take a punt on this one as I've found I've just got too many options so gotta pick one. Have other girls in the background but they don't appeal to me as much. My friends think I am crazy.

Your selling...and Im not buying. There is no way in he11 that you have hott and interested chicks pining for your attention but instead you would rather chase a girl whose just monopolizing your attention at best. So you can claim and swear all you want about being some hot sh1t kid with mad h0es....but I think your putting up a front and it all comes back to your mindset. Who cares if a bunch of guys on the internet know that you only have one option and its causing you to seek advice about it?

But anyhow sayings like "well I like a challenge" etc are just fronts for "well...I like this girl but she doesnt really like me....but I dont have any other options, so I WANT HER!" Id advise working on your mindset and learn some plate theory.

So I know I'm going to probably get flamed or recieve many posts about finding a HB that has high IL

Thats because you CANT MAKE a girl like you. And your attitude should not be about trying to impress one with lukewarm interest....it should be finding a girl who has high interest and makes it easy to have sex and/or a meaningful relationship with her.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

Thats because you CANT MAKE a girl like you. And your attitude should not be about trying to impress one with lukewarm interest....it should be finding a girl who has high interest and makes it easy to have sex and/or a meaningful relationship with her.

yes you can .
i did it several times. and trust me. she did not like me (I don't look hot) then she found out about things, that give me some status in my city. and heard her friends talk about me. and i told her a lot of BS while playing the cool and i don't care card. and slowly she became really attached. maybe it wasn't sex at first sight. but why would it be better if she had liked me all along just because of looks?
i mean i just wanted to bone her.

a little social engineering (which is a second character for me now), validation from others, status, and the girls get wet eventually.

it is enough for me.

so it may not be a rule, but it is certainly possible. all the guys without the looks but with a good game can testify this.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

You're not giving us the full story. All we know is she won't go on a date with you, but you're not telling us (a) how you're flirting with her, and (b) what you're talking to her about. It could be that you're doing these two things the wrong way, which is resulting in her not wanting to go out with you.

For example: when flirting, are you touching her too much, or touching her in places where she looks uncomfortable when you do it? Are you saying overtly sexual things/innuendos to her without knowing whether or not she wants to hear it?

I'm not saying it's not possible to get this girl on a date - after all, she gave you the number so that's always a good sign - but you're either flirting the wrong way, saying the wrong things, or possibly texting/calling her too much (which is why I say texting KILLS relationships). You need to stop for a second and really figure out which one of these things it may possibly be, then find a different way of approaching her.