Tips for an introvert

[tdotseoul]

I confess, I think I'm an introvert and I'm pretty awkward around people. Sometimes, I'm too analytical and self-conscious and large groups of people make me uncomfortable.

If there is a girl that is part of a group or when I'm at a party I would not be able to pick up a girl even if my life depended on it.

That does not mean I'm particularly bad with women (I have slept over 40 women and I'm 27) but these usually happens when I am able to talk to a women on a one-on-one basis or maybe like 3 people at max. For example, I'm working part-time the girl and I are the only people working, etc. or when I meet a girl at a school club and we were the only only Asian people there or meet a girl online.

Like for example, me and this girl went on a date and it went great, I think I'm a good conversationalist when I'm with someone. But, when the restaurant manager (female) came over to talk to us about the philosophy behind their restaurant, I was quiet again.

But, I want to be able to good at speaking to women no matter what circumstance. If this was true with me, I'm pretty sure my number would have doubled by now.

How do I get over my introvertedness. Is it possible? Should I just accept my macking skill and just rely on an one-on-one situations?

Anybody here that got over introvertedness, that is willing to share some tips would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

 

[Mike32ct]

Introverts do best one on one or in small groups. Just play to your strengths.

I rarely if ever have approached groups greater than three. It's not worth it anyway because there are too many distractions and too many people that can pull her away.

 

[Stagger Lee]

I think if you have slept with 40 women at your age then you don't have much problem getting attraction. I think it demonstrates that personality doesn't make much difference in sexual attraction, mostly just physical appearance does. You would probably have low increase in results trying to be more outgoing. It might even be counterproductive trying to force yourself outside of your comfort zone.

But really all you can do is try to be more outgoing with larger groups and peopple you just met, and see if it brings much results. I don't think there's much in the way of tips other than to try to treat it the same way you interact with someone one-on-one.