Tinder girl!

[MCFC]

Hi I'm new here. So I met this girl on tinder last week, she have me her number after a few messages and so we started texting. The first night or two she texts quite a lot and suggested we should meet for a drink at the weekend. I tried to play it cool and said to just let me know when she was free. So as the weekend rolled on she couldn't do Saturday or Sunday because of work and family commitments. Over these days she wasn't texting very much at all, I was lucky if I got 2/3 replies a day which was fine but different to how she's been. I text her yesterday lunch time asking if she was free and she agreed to go for a drink.
We had a good evening in a local bar, lots of laughs and flirting. She suggested showing me some other bars she knows some time and also meeting to watch a sports event next weekend. So I drove her home and as she left she said text her to let her know I was home. I texted that I'd had a good time and would like to do it again but I've heard nothing since.
I can't work out if she's playing hard to get or just isn't interested. She's tweeted her friends today because it showed on my timeline. On the one hand I'm thinking I should just move on but on the other she was the one suggesting doing stuff together.
Any suggestions guys? Do I text again?

 

[MisterSisterFister]

Hi I'm new here. So I met this girl on tinder last week, she have me her number after a few messages and so we started texting. The first night or two she texts quite a lot and suggested we should meet for a drink at the weekend. I tried to play it cool and said to just let me know when she was free. So as the weekend rolled on she couldn't do Saturday or Sunday because of work and family commitments. Over these days she wasn't texting very much at all, I was lucky if I got 2/3 replies a day which was fine but different to how she's been. I text her yesterday lunch time asking if she was free and she agreed to go for a drink.
We had a good evening in a local bar, lots of laughs and flirting. She suggested showing me some other bars she knows some time and also meeting to watch a sports event next weekend. So I drove her home and as she left she said text her to let her know I was home. I texted that I'd had a good time and would like to do it again but I've heard nothing since.
I can't work out if she's playing hard to get or just isn't interested. She's tweeted her friends today because it showed on my timeline. On the one hand I'm thinking I should just move on but on the other she was the one suggesting doing stuff together.
Any suggestions guys? Do I text again?

You really need to dig read the DJ bible and read some posts that will be your best start.

Suggesting you're able to hang "whenever she's free" that's mistake number one. If your a man who has some self esteem and appreciates his time, then you are not free whenever. You should be keeping yourself occupied with things you love to do, exercise, sports, passions learning the DJ bible stuff like that. Woman laze around all day with no ambition or motivation.

Now you're worried about the texting, Well of course you are. Because you have made HER the man in this relationship! So its your obligation to fulfill the womanly obligations of sitting around all day worried about things that hold absolutely no meaning to you as a MAN or to YOUR future!

I am not preaching to grow a beard or chop wood to be a man. I am preaching to be yourself, Know who you are, pursue a passion in life! Don't laze around all day with worries that are non existent! A man who practices ballet is more manly then this because at least he has the balls to pursue a passion and does not let anything get in his way!

 

[narcissist]

Mistakes

- saying you are free whenever she is free
- not setting a specific date and sticking to it
- texting too much before you even went on a date with her
- chasing her with texts after she stopped replying a lot
- should have kissed closed to gauge interest
- texted her after the date saying "I had a good time"
- texted her after the date because she told you too
- following her on twitter
- letting your own hamster spin because she went dead silent


It is clear that you have made some mistakes. And these are only the mistakes that I can see from your post. Lets not forget that you probably made more mistakes in person on the date. So this is probably why she isnt texting you back. She is losing interest because she can smell that you are TOO invested.

Lay back. Chill out, and let her chase you. But this might be a lost cause.

Dont fret. We all make mistakes. Be glad that you are at least trying to better yourself. Read the Dj bible first and foremost. And continue asking the forum questions. I suggest you also start talking to more women. This will eradicate your neediness and emotional investment in 1 woman.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Hi I'm new here. So I met this girl on tinder last week, she have me her number after a few messages and so we started texting. The first night or two she texts quite a lot and suggested we should meet for a drink at the weekend. I tried to play it cool and said to just let me know when she was free. So as the weekend rolled on she couldn't do Saturday or Sunday because of work and family commitments.

This is common in online dating. I'm a "I want to meet you now" kind of guy. A lot of these "play it cool; don' act too eager to meet" rules are very damaging to online dating success. Most of my lays have came within 1-2 days of first talking to the girl. Some the same day.

If i start talking to a girl - before we get too heavy into rapport. I'll ask her what her availability is like. If she says "I'm not available until..." I'll back off until closer to that time. Most women have availability though. It's just a matter of if they want to give it to you.

With a woman doing online dating - you're competing with as many as 500 other guys a week. On top of the guys she's already been on dates with or has some form of relationship with. The quicker you can get her out of her jeans - the quicker you move up her totem pole of priority.

Over these days she wasn't texting very much at all, I was lucky if I got 2/3 replies a day which was fine but different to how she's been.

You should be indifferent on this.

I text her yesterday lunch time asking if she was free and she agreed to go for a drink.We had a good evening in a local bar, lots of laughs and flirting. She suggested showing me some other bars she knows some time and also meeting to watch a sports event next weekend.

This is fine. But i don't hear anything about you escalating. Were you touching her? Was your flirting sexual in any way?

So I drove her home and as she left she said text her to let her know I was home. I texted that I'd had a good time and would like to do it again but I've heard nothing since.

Don't do that cliche sh!t man. I don't care how much hollywood has ruined your ability to date - you DO NOT need to be an open book. You DO NOT need to give her comfort.

She should be the one worried about if you like her...

I can't work out if she's playing hard to get or just isn't interested.

But instead you're the one worried if she likes you....

She's tweeted her friends today because it showed on my timeline.

I don't know what this has to do with anything... Are you saying - she tweeted her friend instead of texting you and that makes you upset?

On the one hand I'm thinking I should just move on but on the other she was the one suggesting doing stuff together.
Any suggestions guys? Do I text again?

Honestly, move on to the next one. If this woman is into you - she'll try to get back your attention. If she's not - you won't care because you're talking to other women.


You sound very green though... The first thing you need to learn to do is escalate. Look it up....

 

[MCFC]

**** I've got a lot of reading and practicing to do! Brutal but honest feedback guys, I don't disagree with any of you!