Guys something strange happened to me twice this week and got me thinking what am I doing wrong here.
I had 2 tinder dates this week - we had an alright connection, not something amazing but reasonable, then after an hour and half or so I invited them to come to my place and in both cases they agreed.
from my past experience I know that when a girl is down to come over on a tinder date - it's game on but something strange happen in both cases.
we go up and then when I initiated physical contact they to my surprise did not went with it and declined me when I went for the kiss.
both scenarios were kind of the same: we went up to my room, sat on the sofa - I played some music/tv show in the background and after a few minutes of small talk I went for the kiss and got the "head turn".
if it was just one single case I would not pay it too much attention because girls can be weird sometime but sense it happen twice in a span of few days I want to look into it and understand what I am doing wrong.
few notes:
- I live in a place where they are many tourists - both this girls are tourists and were going to leave town the next day - so it was "now or never" kind of thing.
- I notice both of this girls body language were very similar when they were back in my place - it was pretty close and distant.
a few mistakes I think I have done:
- the big one: didn't create enough sexual tension during the date itself - didn't insatiate any physical contact at all and basically act more like a friend then a potential lover.this is always hard for me on a tinder date as appose to a date when we both met before and it's clear we are both into each other and this is why we are meeting again.so when I meet a girl from tinder I always have this fear of coming off too strong as I have no idea if she is really into me at all or just being polite during our date.
- second mistake: I rushed things too quickly at my place ? not sure about this one because from past experience I also noted that waiting too long to make moves when a girl is back at my place can become awkward real fast.
would appreciate any input on this
I had 2 tinder dates this week - we had an alright connection, not something amazing but reasonable, then after an hour and half or so I invited them to come to my place and in both cases they agreed.
from my past experience I know that when a girl is down to come over on a tinder date - it's game on but something strange happen in both cases.
we go up and then when I initiated physical contact they to my surprise did not went with it and declined me when I went for the kiss.
both scenarios were kind of the same: we went up to my room, sat on the sofa - I played some music/tv show in the background and after a few minutes of small talk I went for the kiss and got the "head turn".
if it was just one single case I would not pay it too much attention because girls can be weird sometime but sense it happen twice in a span of few days I want to look into it and understand what I am doing wrong.
few notes:
- I live in a place where they are many tourists - both this girls are tourists and were going to leave town the next day - so it was "now or never" kind of thing.
- I notice both of this girls body language were very similar when they were back in my place - it was pretty close and distant.
a few mistakes I think I have done:
- the big one: didn't create enough sexual tension during the date itself - didn't insatiate any physical contact at all and basically act more like a friend then a potential lover.this is always hard for me on a tinder date as appose to a date when we both met before and it's clear we are both into each other and this is why we are meeting again.so when I meet a girl from tinder I always have this fear of coming off too strong as I have no idea if she is really into me at all or just being polite during our date.
- second mistake: I rushed things too quickly at my place ? not sure about this one because from past experience I also noted that waiting too long to make moves when a girl is back at my place can become awkward real fast.
would appreciate any input on this
