Timings

[Comatozed]

When following the DJ rules about when to text and time between dates I'm often stuck knowing when to text after a date and when to set up dates.

DJ rules are stuff like don't text for 3 days after the date, don't text on the weekend and don't arrange dates with new chicks on the weekend. But this leaves very little time to actually text/date.

For example, I went out with a girl for a drink on Tuesday. The next time I want to see her I want it to be a weekend, but I can't text her on Wednesday or Thursday and then texting Friday for a date that night or Saturday is pretty short notice and likely to get blown out.

At the same time, is leaving it til the next Monday to set up a date for the next Friday leaving it too long? Kinda kills the momentum if it means there's almost two weeks between date 1 and date 2...or maybe it doesn't and that's what I should do.

I might be thinking too much about this, but when you factor in all the 'rules' it leaves a precise window to strike.

I suppose I could text girl from Tuesday something general this evening, see how she responds then message her again on Monday to set up date for following Friday. Ideally I want second dates to be weekends so I can smash. This approach prevents me from asking her out a week in advance yet keeps things ticking over a bit. Plus, if she's cold/goes ghost I will know not to even bother asking for date 2.

 

[LMFAO]

There's no hard or fast rule on this.

If you got on well with her, kissed her and maybe more texting her after 1-2 days would be OK. Otherwise waiting a few days is normal. Honestly though I don't text girls after a first date where we don't kiss, but that's my personal screening to avoid time wasters.

You can text her Thursday/Friday, whatever it's fine.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Your thinking way too far into things

Those ideas aren’t “ DJ RULES” they are mere guidelines to guide you as how to treat women

You cannot apply logic to women it doesn’t work you have to understand them on an emotional level

You can text whenever the fvck you want as long as your saying the right things and not being a needy chump

 

[Comatozed]

Yea thought as much.

On that note, understanding on an emotional level..

Will a highly interested girls attraction for you go up if you dump her? My friend dumped his gf cos he thoughts that was what he wanted but then regretted it so got back with her, he didn't so it on purpose but she's totally in love with him and it makes me think it could be used in your favour.

is that what you mean about spiking her emotions?

Like is it almost always a way to drive up attraction by dumping or going cold once they're interested? It'll be hard for me to do that to a girl I do like as a tactic incase it backfires but from my own experience and what I've read being dumped or gone cold on only makes the other person more attracted?

I guess I will find out when I end it with this plate I currently have, but I don't actually care if this one leaves. Doing it to a girl I want LTR is a different thing altogether, especially when I would be doing it with a desired outcome.

 

[astrn]

That reminds me my biggest failure happened 5 weeks ago in one point about ignoring a girl who she is so into you and you will regret it after!! Not exactly the same situation but ignoring a girl with a very high IL could cause loss of total IL in some occasions. So bang her when the iron is hot!

NC her when her IL between medium to low. If no IL at all then next her for good!

My bull**** AFC story in short...

I met a girl 6 weeks ago and the same evening she just wanna sex with me! I absolutely did nothing, did not tried to attract her, didn't played mind games, didn't tried kino. Hell didn't speaked either. I just enjoyed the moment and made her happy. She just liked me out of blues!

And then I messed up so bad without even banged or even kissed her. (should kissed her at that particular moment, the moment that you should really act, not think!) even that my BS acting she tried one more time 2 days later. The problem is I messed up so bad again (acted total AFC/Beta). I wanted to take it slow but she just wanted me so hard. Now she is in a galaxy far far away with another joystick! I regret it but nothing todo at this point. If she changes her mind by herself then maybe but 1 in a million!

Just do your best. Improve yourself but not burn yourself as I am, improvement takes very long time! Stop playing games, act natural, enjoy the moment. Even if youre not enjoying just pretend you are enjoying it. So the people around you dont think youre boring... At least you don't damage your reputation.

There will be another girl, always... That was not my first, not gonna my last...


And to the point of OP

I hate this kind of precise timing/acting/overanalyzing stuff! If she really likes you that timing, gaming, building attraction etc. doesn't matter for her. Just do your best man!

My advice don't waste your time with low/no interested woman! If you feel you need to do more or wanna try harder to get her attention just stop! It doesn't gonna work!

The harder you hit the make yourself more bury to the concrete!

Just introduce yourself, make a little bit funny convo, get her number/facebook, text/call her in 2 days and invite her for a date/hangout. Keep your texts/calls very short! No more than 2-3 minutes! If she accepts without hesitation then the deal is sealed!

Hell I don't even need to tell you those things... These are the basics you need to stick! Not any other thing. Other part of the deal should be handled by the girl.

 

[stevo]

Remember DJ "rules" is for you to reference. The main act is YOU. Remember when POOK introduced AFC to Manuel who gave directions and AFC was more like PUA rather than a DJ?

The whole point is YOU do what you want to do. Understand YOU're the best out there.

Wanna see her today? Ask her its that simple. You want to wait till next 2weeks before seeing her? cool but text her in between to keep momentum.

Always remember less is more. If you dont see her till 2 weeks, you would not forget her or forget how attractive she is and neither would she if she already likes you.

Less is more bro.