"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tie Yourself to the Mast

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Sometimes you may lack the discipline to do what you know is right. For instance, you know it's probably dumb to instantly respond to IMs and Text Msgs, but you're bored and want to. You feel it's rude to "play games" on the phone, so you return calls and answer calls ASAP. In short, you're a nice guy that knows some of these nice guy things are counterproductive, but your background sense of honor and good manners and indiscipline prevent you from doing the right thing.

There is an easy solution: make it impossible to make mistakes. Leave your phone at home. Do not log into your myspace account. Set up plans with friends and don't tell anyone and leave the phone where you can't get to it. Don't do this for days on end, but just do it some of the time. Your stock will improve. Your results will improve. And you will have avoided the temptation to do what you know in moments of cool-headed rationality is unwise.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wrender

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I agree with you. We live in a world today where everyone is too available. When I was younger things were different. When I went out, it meant I was out. If someone called me, they would need to wait until I got home to return their call. Usually I leave my cell phone in my car when I go places. Or sometimes I turn the ringer off. Nothing so important that it can't wait.

I'm not a big fan of IM. I have a handful of people that are on Messenger and that's even too much. I don't like the fact that it can be so easy to be interrupted and get caught in a conversation every time I sit at my computer. Personally, I never give girlfriends my IM contact info. I don't even mention that I use it.
 

DJF or John

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Nice post, but I don't think it's a wake up call, I think it just shows THE overall problem on this site.

wrender says,

"I agree with you. We live in a world today where everyone is too available."

That's right, everybody doesn't have shyt to do. If you knew the shyt I knew, you would see there's way too much shyt TO DO! I really seriously don't understand when a guy says I'm bored, I just don't get that.

There's way too many opportunities to make money.
There's way too many girls in town you HAVEN'T met yet.
There's way too much information you have to read for your Self Improvement.
There's way too much information you have to read for your SPIRITUAL self.

Man....lol. Guys might need a tip or a technique for other things, but a tip for staying busy? That just shows the overall lack of motivation of guys on this site, that's all. No motivation, no fire.
 
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